adrian77 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 She is divorced. They meet after work at a bar and then go to his car and she performs oral on him. Then during the week he is sometimes friendly and then sometimes distant. He tells her her really wants to get to know her and can't stop thinking about her. I think he is totally playing her and she doesn't and believes him when he said he never cheated before. She said she doesn't want to keep tempting him but can't help it. 1
SoleMate Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Sad story. Have you considered recommending that your friend get counseling?
Arieswoman Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 adrian77, I'm not quite sure what your question is? It's her business not yours, unless she asks you for advice. And this is BS , She said she doesn't want to keep tempting him but can't help it. She doesn't want to help it, otherwise she'd stop. 2
CharlieFox Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 So... What is the question here? And why are you so interested in what other people are doing that doesn't concern you at all?
Author adrian77 Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Why is everyone so rude? I think it's wrong and he is playing her. Just want other opinions. 1
tpham18nm Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Why is everyone so rude? I think it's wrong and he is playing her. Just want other opinions. Sorry for people being rude. I dont think he's playing her. I think that he does genuinely like her but is scared of leaving his wife. There are only two options. To leave his wife and be with her or to leave her and be with his wife. He'll probably stay with his wife; unless your friend and him have a deep thing but it doesn't sound like it. Oral in a parking lot usually doesn't last...
LoneIsland Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Why is everyone so rude? I think it's wrong and he is playing her. Just want other opinions. Are you saying if a man is thinking of a woman, he is playing her ? But if he is not thinking of her, he is not playing her ?
No Limit Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Divorced and still played, that is sad. And I guess your friend is so happy to have found such a good friend...
Gloria25 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Why is everyone so rude? I think it's wrong and he is playing her. Just want other opinions. Umm... Well, while I can't speak for others I think they didn't mean any harm when they were asking what your question was...Cuz, even if we give you our opinions, do you plan to do anything with them? But, I'm glad you clarified you are just seeking people's opinions here...(don't we all do that when we come here?) So, here goes... People are gonna do what they're gonna do. I have done things that I wouldn't disclose to my gfs cuz they probably might look at me sideways. My gfs have told me of things they've done and over time I've ended my friendships with them cuz while I try to keep certain friends within certain "groups" (i.e. friends I just catch a movie with, friends I can tell certain things to), I believe that the people I keep company with are a reflection of me and I don't want to be around certain people. So, IMO, I think the guy is taking advantage of her. I mean she give him oral in parking lots? She needs to start charging him then. But, then maybe that's a turn on for her. I love giving oral, it turns me on too.... But, do you think I'm gonna get naked to please a guy and he isn't pleasing me too? He better be going down on me too.... Now, why would she think he gives a hoot about her? I mean, he won't even cough up a couple of dollars and go to a hotel/motel and have actual sex with her? Does he even take her to a dinner? To McDonalds?
dichotomy Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 They are both playing each other. Takes two to tango, especially or a single woman who could have a dozen nice looking single men, looking for a GF who would be lining up for oral in their car with her. If you are a really close friend to her - you need to help her take accountability. If it was me and my buddy was engaging in hurtful behaviors - I would try very hard to get him straight. But at some point if he could not break, I would distance myself from him I have some experience with this kind of story. 1
whichwayisup Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 She is divorced. They meet after work at a bar and then go to his car and she performs oral on him. Then during the week he is sometimes friendly and then sometimes distant. He tells her her really wants to get to know her and can't stop thinking about her. I think he is totally playing her and she doesn't and believes him when he said he never cheated before. She said she doesn't want to keep tempting him but can't help it. This ain't his first rodeo and it won't be his last. He is using her. Let her know that the more she goes off with him in his car and gives him a blow job, the less respect he has for her and will continue to use her. He is in lust, enjoying getting what he can from her, then he treats her poorly, and she comes back for more. Why would this guy give up on her? He's got it made, a girl who gives him head and he doesn't even have to be that nice to her. Gross. 1
Trimmer Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I think he is totally playing her and she doesn't and believes him when he said he never cheated before. What in the world difference would there be between "him playing her" and "him not playing her?" The way higher-order consideration is: he is married. What are her expectations of this relationship? You say she doesn't think he is "playing her" and believes him when he says he's never cheated before... What in the world difference do those issues make? He is married. It seems you are spending a lot of energy trying to arrange the deck chairs just right, while you miss the fact that the ship is headed straight for an iceberg. What does she imagine an affair with a married man looks like when he's not "playing her?"
Cristo Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 She is divorced. They meet after work at a bar and then go to his car and she performs oral on him. Then during the week he is sometimes friendly and then sometimes distant. He tells her her really wants to get to know her and can't stop thinking about her. I think he is totally playing her and she doesn't and believes him when he said he never cheated before. She said she doesn't want to keep tempting him but can't help it. It sounds like your friend lacks values and morals. I would discontinue this friendship if I were you.
No Limit Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Out of curiousity... why is she divorced? If she cheated on her husband repeatedly this might as well be the affair she's been in for a long time.
MissBee Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Them meeting at a bar and she performing oral on him in his car doesn't sound like the makings of a true love story. It seems to be mainly about sex and I'd guess that's what it is for him. Thinking about her? I'm sure he is...sexually...thinking about when they can have more hot sex. Not all affairs are about sex...but this one seems like it is. It's one thing say if they were coworkers or friends and had some kind of emotional relationship first where he genuinely knew and liked her then it got physical, then MAYBE she'd have a chance at more with him. But even without him being married, if you start off a "relationship" with BJs in a car, chances are it never grows to anything more. I'd ask her what she wants from him and I'd advise her to date single men. How newly divorced is she? If it's new she may be doing this as a way to manage feelings of loneliness even though it's unhealthy.
Author adrian77 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 She is recently divorced. She never cheated. He did.
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