usernamed Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Hey! I've been texting this girl for almost a year. I've never met her, because we both live on the other side of the planet. At first we were just chatting about everything, she even said things like she would like me to be there to cuddle her, to give her a goodnight kiss and stuff. Okay, i thought often times our conversations were pretty romantic. At least i think so. Not to mention the times when she was drunk she even "wished" me to do "things" to her, catch the drift? So, maybe 4-5 months passed, and she suddenly cooled down. I understand. We live so far from each other, we both have dated people, because obviously we didn't consider each other dating material. At least in this form. But some time ago she like started to insist she only wanted to be friends with me, and *nothing else*. She didn't use the same wording anymore as before. I was sad, but i got over it. I mean rationally speaking nothing real can't happen between us; nor me or she can't move to the other side of the planet. I'm stuck with my career here for some time. Okay, months passed, we didn't send each other random cute texts anymore like we used to, but then like a week or so ago she randomly says she loves me, and i'm a really good friend to her. That last part was intentionally inserted, so that i can't hold on to anything. I said she's really important person to me as well, and things went on. Well yesterday night i was drunk and just sent her "Sweet dreams, girl" when i crashed, and in the morning she texted me "I love you." (without the BUT I'M JUSTA FRIEND, OKAY? hehe) I think she was drunk, too, because it was sent like 3 a.m in her time. I mean sure that can mean tons of things, but do you think she has feelings for me? That "I love you." part was just too straightforward to be sent to a friend like that. Guess i just wanted to type it, but your thoughts and input is really appreciated! Would you send your male or female friend (depending on your sex) something like this? Greetings, and pardon my English for any errors:o
Assasda Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Well dude, guess she loves you. When are you guys gonna gear up for cyber sex?? Better get it done soon. Because in about 8-10 months, some real life dude is probably gonna notice her and, show her his real car, kiss her with his real mouth, rip off her real clothes, bang her brains out - IRL. -IRL means "in real life" for all the people following it home. Good luck
ladyu Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 wait a min before she said u r just a friend (obviously she got another dude which she dint disclose to you , then she broke up with that dude) and tadaaa she is back again to love you ......... so if u r sure she wont do that again i mean if she wont make u a friend again then may be u shud go for her ... may be u must love her .. but i suggest u to not love her becos of many reasons like finally u will end up no where ... u cant be serious .... chances that u meet her is one percent so.... but yeah if u r very confident that some day u will meet her and also confident that she wont treat u as just friend again then u can go for it
Haerts Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Because in about 8-10 months, some real life dude is probably gonna notice her and, show her his real car, kiss her with his real mouth, rip off her real clothes, bang her brains out - IRL. -IRL means "in real life" for all the people following it home. That's so negative. Not to mention the same could happen to him. Life is unpredictable. Also, I've heard of couples that actually manage to keep a long distance relationship. A friend of mine's been in one for 6 years. They see each other about 2 months a year and still they love each other. OP, I wouldn't say she does love you because well, you haven't even met IRL yet. However, she does have some huge affection for you and that was her way of showing that. Sometimes people say they love you even though they don't, love is way bigger than what you guys have (in my opinion), but you can take it like she was being cute and saying she has strong feelings for you.
Author usernamed Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 (edited) I don't have any illusions. Like i mentioned in my post we both have dated people, and we both have said it to each other. That's why we don't consider each other "strict". But we never speak about it, the details of going on a date or anything like that. Guess we both actually don't wanna hear it. But people have their needs, we all want to feel closeness and cared upon, so in this regards it's completely understandable why we do it. I guess the more time has passed on the more i've become infatuated with her. I've planned to visit her, but she has said it's not such a good idea. Like what if falls for me. And she doesn't want to fall in love with a guy who lives millions of miles away. That's understandable and reasonable explanation. Or perhaps she said in when she was dating someone, hehe. Who knows. Thankfully with enough rationalization you eventually realize all these feelings and emotions are just chemical reactions in your body, and with enough willpower you can let it go:) I should mention she's 24 and i'm 26. So we're not just some teenagers spewing stupid love-stories just for fun. I know she has had terrible relationships before, one even got her in a hospital when she wanted to commit suicide. So i guess she is really tender in this topic, and don't wanna feel hurt again. That's why i never pressure with this talk, as i have no right. But yeah i mean that's life. Edited October 4, 2014 by usernamed
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