Mizz Layta Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 We have known each other for few yeara and we live 4 hours apart.However, he told me not to contact him anymore and that he needs space.He lost his job and he also having personal issues. I decided to delete his number from my phone to remove the tampation of contacting him.I am already regretting my decision but then again I kept having urges to reach out. It's been a month and I haven't hear from him.I am worried and wondering if he is okay. We have known each other for few years and we where very close. What we have is deeper than relationship .Its more like family, well not like that because we are lovers but its just deeper than boyfriend and boyfriend. Do you still care about your exes?
Conners Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Who broke up with who? If he broke up with you, just leave him be.. its natural to worry about him but the feelings aren't reciprocated so there is no point in wasting your time. I only have one ex boyfriend, I broke up with him. I did "worry" about him because he said he had depression and was going to end his life because of the break up. (I realise now that this was a form of mental abuse as I was only 20 and he was 28 and was trying to manipulate me) I did not worry about him because I loved him but more because I did not want to feel responsible for someone hurting themselves. 2 years later and I honestly could not care less about him, I've seen him out with his new girlfriend and he seems perfectly fine and I'm glad for him.
Woggle Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Not really. She put herself in the situation she is in. 1
guest569 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Did you break things off? I definitely still love and care for my ex despite never seeing him, probably never will again. I think of him often but I know he is doing just brilliantly without me. Although he was the one who broke my heart by leaving, i feel a bit sorry for him sometimes and feel sympathy and don't really know why.. 1
TheyCallMeOx Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Nope. In fact, I find it easier to cope with my loss if I assume she's doing exceptionally well. Worrying about her isn't going to bring me any closer to her, and that's okay. 1
Dontfindme Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I worried when I found out he was getting laid off. We worked at the same company, so I got back in touch with him for the last week that we would be working together. It was awful. I cried every day. He was fine. He would have been fine either way.
Ordinaryday Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Sometimes. Im the dumpee though so I figure that when they dumped me they essentially said they dont want my love or support in their life so I am giving them what they want by leaving them alone. and if a dumper were to ever reach out for help after they dumped me my response would be "you lost all rights to my assistance the moment you dumped me, bye"
veggirl Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 No I don't worry about my exes. Odds are yours is FINE, just because you haven't spoken doesnt mean there is something to worry about. You guys aren't "like family" or you'd still be together, he has other people to lean on now.
still_an_Angel Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Worry - no. Wonder - perhaps. Why worry about someone who managed to exist without me since birth until the relationship with me?
Author Mizz Layta Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Who broke up with who? If he broke up with you, just leave him be.. its natural to worry about him but the feelings aren't reciprocated so there is no point in wasting your time. Well, we have been seeing each other on and off for few years .He was planning to come to visit me but he lost his job so he can't afford to see me at this moment. We live 4 hours apart.He started pushing me away by not responding to my texts and phone calls but I kept contacting him untill he told me that he needs space and not contact him anymore. I am trying to move on but I can't help but to still care and wonder how he is doing
veggirl Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Well you've only been broken up for a short time, it's totally normal to wonder/worry at this point. It'll go away eventually. I mean do you still worry about exes from years past? I never even think of them.
hedyo Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Several of my exes struggle with depression, excessive drinking, etc, and I do wonder how they're doing and hope that they're ok. I wouldn't say I actively worry about them though, as I feel my responsibility for them ended when we broke up. Especially if they left me (which has been the case with all the unstable ones).
hockeydan Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I worry about my ex from time to time. I hope she is doing well and she recently dealt with a family loss, so I can only image what she is going through. The most I have ever worried about her was when I was driving home by our near our old apartment and an SUV much like hers has lying on its side after colliding with a larger SUV. I had the initial urge to contact her after I passed the accident to make sure, but I didn't.
Elle1975 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Like the other poster says, I wonder, but I don't worry. I don't feel like I have "dips" on his life, or he on mine. I am not his responsibility, and he's not mine.
Lostdreams Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I guess I worry about him as much as he worries about me ....... 0%
Woggle Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Despite everything that happened I do hope she cleans up her act once she gets out of prison. Maybe hard time will make her wake up.
Sugarkane Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I never worry about them. I was always the one who got dumped out of the blue, no fighting, no complaints. I dont jump from relationship to relationship like my exes.
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