movingonnow1 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I recently ran into this girl I used to date before I moved away to another country and we lost touch. She was really into me before I left but I felt it was unfair to keep a relationship with her if I didn't know if I would ever return. In a lot of ways, we had a lot of chemistry and just clicked really well. We kept in touch as friends here and there and never really perused anything. Now, I know that she was seeing a guy fairly shortly (maybe 6 months maximum) - they weren't official but I heard through a mutual friend that she was with a guy who her parents would never accept. When I ran into her she told me she deactivated her Facebook and deleted her Instagram (sounds like she's trying to avoid seeing him) and she cut off a guy who had red flags and that her parents would never accept. She said it was never official she just liked him a lot blah blah blah...and then she went on to talk about all the good memories we had together and how she misses me. Anyways, after I saw her she asked for my number and was texting me a lot. I didn't give her too much attention because I'm worried she's trying to make me into a rebound. When I finally did see her, she was showing me many many signs she was interested in me. She was always grabbing my arm, flirting and then eventually she kissed me. I could tell from the instant that I saw her that we were drawn to each other and there was that spark still. Anyways, I saw her another couple of times after that (maybe I was too "available") and she ended up telling me "She still thinks about" that guy from time to time but doesn't want to be with him and she "cut him off". I started to go after her and started to show some interest and she started to turn cold and back off. I guess she could see when she told me about the guy I was kind of bothered that she was talking to me about him (I know rookie mistake). Are these flags or am I just over thinking? I mean, I can't possibly expect her to be really into me that quick and want to be with me...but should I be avoiding this because of her obvious feelings for this guy? Or should I just be patient and give it a chance? I went through a really bad breakup and don't want to get sucked into something with a girl I know I can like A LOT / potentially love if it'll just be bad news. Let me know your thoughts on this...
Adele0908 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I think you should stop pursuing and let her come to you. It looks like she is not 100% into you, maybe because of her ex. If you let her go and she has to come back to you, she'll respect you more.
mightycpa Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 You should only avoid her because of your feelings for her. If you can remain unaffected, then do her a favor and help her get her head out of the clouds. But if that is going to **** with your emotions, then steer clear.
LostOnes05 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I agree with Adele's comment . She obviously isn't over this guy if she is mentioning him to you. Give her time and space to make up her mind, but don't wait on her decision.
Assasda Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I thought the post was going to be a sap story. But from what I read, you look like you sorta know what youre doing. I think you should remain unaffected, like my man mightcpa suggested. Just be that rock that she can tell stuff to, without you getting emotional. - Then basically put your hand down her pants. So feel her out and listen to what she says, before you let her earn your love
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