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Kid_Charlemange Established Member

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A few weeks ago, I met my first person from Tinder. Before then, I'd been toying with the app for a few months. A few chats, nothing more.

 

Started texting with this woman via the app. She's a couple years older than me, attractive in a non-traditional sort of way. She asked where I was, I responded, and she said it was "greek" to her, as she was from out of town. She lives in Las Vegas and was visiting her daughter. Then she mentioned the bar she and her daughter were at; I know the place, and I was on my way home from a friend's place, so I stopped by.

 

We hit it off. We both lost our spouses in the past three years, it turns out, and don't have a ton of dating experience. She had just gotten onto Tinder that day -- at her daughter's urging.

 

The daughter and the daughter's BF decided to take a cab home, but her Mom stayed out with me. We had a few more drinks, talked some more, and seemed to click. She's very nice, smart, funny. Eventually it got late and I said I'd drive her back to her daughter's condo. We held hands on the walk to my car. Shared a very long, nice kiss at the end of the night.

 

We've been texting a little since then. Today she mentioned she had gotten comped a room in Vegas and was spending the weekend doing some pool and fun stuff. I teasingly said I'd check priceline to see if there we any cheap flights. Basically we kept bluffing each other until I, sure enough, found a super cheap flight. She said her room had two queens. OK, I thought.

 

I fly out tomorrow and come back east on Monday.

 

20 minutes ago she texted that she had checked in, and the only rooms they had left here ones with a single king, not two queens. I teasingly said that as long as she promised to behave herself, we'd be fine. She promised.

 

I've never done anything like this in my life -- flying across 3/4 of the country to spend a weekend with a woman I barely know. I *think* she's just mentioning the bed situation because she doesn't want to appear too forward... or she might actually be so naive to think that this invite is totally platonic. But, no... no one is that naive. Are they?

 

But I go out with no expectations. I haven't been to Vegas in years. I really had no plans this weekend, and did enjoy her company. The only plans I had were to go a street festival tomorrow where my passive-aggressive ex is sure to be; running into her always leads me to a rotten mood.

 

So. To hell with it. I'm gonna do something bold, out of character, and a little risky. You only live once.

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CarrieT Established Member

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Let's hope she is actually there with a room...

 

Fortunately, last-minute rooms are fairly easy to get and you might have a nice time by yourself if the situation falls south.

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Mrin Established Member

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Dude, I wish I could allocate my week's worth of Like button to this thread alone. Right on man! LOVE IT. At a bare minimum, you're going to have one heck of a story!

 

And I think I speak for all of us here, please don't take the Vegas slogan too seriously. What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas... after it is shared on loveshack! Can't wait to hear how it turns out!

 

Right on!

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Better plan than the one you chickened out on, I'll bet..... ;)

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At the very least, it sounds like a fun adventure!

 

Hell yah.

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Well, if it was me? If I was offering to share a king sized bed, in a hotel, in Vegas? I would be insinuating we would be having sex.

 

Kind of seems like a tease otherwise? I think if she really had no intention of sleeping with you she'd have been crystal clear.

 

At any rate , you might want to bring protection !! Sounds exciting!

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Haha! Sexual encounter pending.

 

Have fun, dude. Vegas is a good time with or without a girl. Just remember, the whole 'free drinks' thing is a scam. If you're at a table, you'll be broke by the time you get your drink. If you buy them from the bar, you're not going to have any money left to gamble with.

 

But you can walk across the street to the liquor store and get a 6-pack of Budweiser for about $5. Casinos don't care if you bring your own booze in....they know they're going to get all of your money even if you do manage to sidestep their liquor sales.

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Loved Vegas! That bed will serve as your sexual playground. Have fun!

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It's completely off topic, but I can't help but hear the Steely Dan song every time I read your handle.

 

And why the hell did you promise that? Of all the things you could have said....

CarrieT Established Member

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Please report back what happens! (or doesn't happen...)

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Finally an upbeat thread with someone stepping out of their comfort zone and doing something completely forgein to them. Regardless of the outcome, provided law enforcement isn't involved, sounds like a great time.

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Whoop!

 

Have fun! :D

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Kid_Charlemange Established Member

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Finally an upbeat thread with someone stepping out of their comfort zone and doing something completely forgein to them. Regardless of the outcome, provided law enforcement isn't involved, sounds like a great time.

 

Yeah.

 

A change of pace for the forum, and most definitely for me.

 

Last weekend, I gave serious thought to ending my life; this weekend, I did something bold and crazy and had a great time, with a great lady. We hung out at the pool, we gambled, we drank too much, we spent some great time with some of her close friends -- with whom I totally clicked, I might add. I even came pretty close to breaking even in the casino, which is a win AFAIK.

 

The lady and I definitely enjoyed each others company. She dropped me off at the airport this morning, and I just got back. Back to the realities of my life: My underemployment, staggering debt, and all the photos on FB of my former friends having a wonderful time with my ex. I'm riding a high right now, so none of the above bother me.

 

Yet.

 

It was exactly what I needed, especially since I tried (and failed) to have a rational conversation with my ex on Friday, graciously asking her if there was any way we could move past the "bad blood" that is between us. The answer is, of course, "no." Getting on an airplane first thing Saturday was a welcome relief.

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CarrieT Established Member

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K_C - that is GREAT, GREAT news!!!!

 

I am so glad you had a blast and were able to throw off the shackles of reality for a while.

 

Congrats. Seriously, congrats...

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Yeah.

 

A change of pace for the forum, and most definitely for me.

 

Last weekend, I gave serious thought to ending my life; this weekend, I did something bold and crazy and had a great time, with a great lady. We hung out at the pool, we gambled, we drank too much, we spent some great time with some of her close friends -- with whom I totally clicked, I might add. I even came pretty close to breaking even in the casino, which is a win AFAIK.

 

The lady and I definitely enjoyed each others company. She dropped me off at the airport this morning, and I just got back. Back to the realities of my life: My underemployment, staggering debt, and all the photos on FB of my former friends having a wonderful time with my ex. I'm riding a high right now, so none of the above bother me.

 

Yet.

 

It was exactly what I needed, especially since I tried (and failed) to have a rational conversation with my ex on Friday, graciously asking her if there was any way we could move past the "bad blood" that is between us. The answer is, of course, "no." Getting on an airplane first thing Saturday was a welcome relief.

 

For what it is worth your shared life experiences, personality, general goodness, and ability to live after all you have been through motivates me. Reading your posts I often feel like if he can do it, I sure as hell can deal with my problems.

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Awesome! Good to hear I hope it works out

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This is awesome news KC! Glad you had so much fun!

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Kid_Charlemange Established Member

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For what it is worth your shared life experiences, personality, general goodness, and ability to live after all you have been through motivates me. Reading your posts I often feel like if he can do it, I sure as hell can deal with my problems.

 

Wow. Well, I'm glad these stories have had some positive experiences for someone.

 

In the last four years, I've lost my wife, two jobs, my house, my cats, all of my savings, my 401k, then I lost the love of my life and pretty much all of my friends. I really don't have anything else left to lose. I guess when you reach the bottom, the only way to go is up.

 

I think about ending my life every day, to be honest with you. But I always think "Well, I'll revisit this decision tomorrow." So far that's worked :)

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Awesome! Good to hear I hope it works out

 

Well, I think this was a one-time deal. Neither of us have any expectations beyond this weekend, and that's one of the reasons it went so well.

 

I've never done anything like this, and she says she hasn't either. Sometimes it's just nice to be crazy and have some fun.

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Wow. Well, I'm glad these stories have had some positive experiences for someone.

 

In the last four years, I've lost my wife, two jobs, my house, my cats, all of my savings, my 401k, then I lost the love of my life and pretty much all of my friends. I really don't have anything else left to lose. I guess when you reach the bottom, the only way to go is up.

 

I think about ending my life every day, to be honest with you. But I always think "Well, I'll revisit this decision tomorrow." So far that's worked :)

 

Kid, do you like Oscar Wilde? Your posts made me think of these quotes:

 

 

"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes."

 

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."

 

"This suspense is terrible. I hope it will last."

 

"To define is to limit."

 

"To live is the rarest thing thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all."

 

Congrats on having a spontaneous, wild adventure of a weekend! I hope there are many more in your near future b/c you deserve to be happy! :)

 

I would love to do the same, so you are an inspiration to me!

 

P.S. Everything that you've lost, you can regain. It just takes time. As long as there is time, there is opportunity. Remember that.

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Kid_Charlemange Established Member

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Kid, do you like Oscar Wilde?

 

I've always thought he was overrated, but those are pretty good quotes. :)

 

 

P.S. Everything that you've lost, you can regain. It just takes time. As long as there is time, there is opportunity. Remember that.

 

Well that's the key -- I don't have the time. Over in the "coping" section is a guy who, like me, has decided that it sucks to ponder being alone the rest of your life -- but he's 25! Which makes it kind of weird.

 

I'm 51. The odds of me getting married for the third time are a hundred to one. The friends I've lost this year due to my ex are people I've known, in some cases, for ten years. Statistically speaking, I won't ever be able to generate new friendships like that. I'll never have children. I'm an only child, so I don't even have any nieces or nephews. I'm gonna be alone. And I'm OK with that.

 

Also, at 51, if you haven't reached the top of your career you're not going to. My peak earning years are over. I built up that 401k over 20 years of working, and lost it all to pay my second wife's medical bills. I'll never be able to retire, while most of my friends are starting to think about that. Yadda yadda. My old life is gone, the things I had -- a wife, a house, some security, some thought of retirement, and long-term friends -- are gone as well.

 

But -- I got to have a wild weekend in Vegas, so maybe it balances out :)

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Wilde grows on you if you let him. :)

 

Yes, a wild Vegas weekend was a nice reprieve for you to let loose and have fun! I hope life continues to throw positive surprises your way, because like everyone else, you deserve to be happy regardless of what you may lack (401K, house, etc.). You're not alone in that respect. Trust me on that.

 

I've always thought he was overrated, but those are pretty good quotes. :)

 

Well that's the key -- I don't have the time. Over in the "coping" section is a guy who, like me, has decided that it sucks to ponder being alone the rest of your life -- but he's 25! Which makes it kind of weird.

 

I'm 51. The odds of me getting married for the third time are a hundred to one. The friends I've lost this year due to my ex are people I've known, in some cases, for ten years. Statistically speaking, I won't ever be able to generate new friendships like that. I'll never have children. I'm an only child, so I don't even have any nieces or nephews. I'm gonna be alone. And I'm OK with that.

 

Also, at 51, if you haven't reached the top of your career you're not going to. My peak earning years are over. I built up that 401k over 20 years of working, and lost it all to pay my second wife's medical bills. I'll never be able to retire, while most of my friends are starting to think about that. Yadda yadda. My old life is gone, the things I had -- a wife, a house, some security, some thought of retirement, and long-term friends -- are gone as well.

 

But -- I got to have a wild weekend in Vegas, so maybe it balances out :)

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You are an inspiration, live life to the fullest!!!

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