Sckott Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Met this cutie online. We exchanged short emails, noticed that her replies were usually fairly short. She didn't seem eager to meet at all, but she always returned a reply. So I gave her a "Let me know if you would like to meet, otherwise, I understand". She replied, she DID, and wanted to meet for coffee. She's not of the area, just moved here, so we met someplace she was familiar with and had java. About 3 hours past in good conversation and we split. I told her I liked her company, she expressed the same. No kiss, she seemed a bit shy. I let her go with a smile. Since then, she's taken me out ice skating, I've fixed her laptop and cooked for her at my place, nice! She even got me some thoughtful gifts. Now, we've been on about 2-3 dates since, talked on the phone, always friendly, sometimes laughing. She ALWAYS returns phone calls and emails. Her body language is confusing, her comfort is certainly there because I've made sure she's felt "easy" with me. I'm certainly not the type to invade when it's not the time. I've hugged her, she seems compassionate and warm. Going out Wednesday. Should I try for the kiss?
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Sounds like she's holding back because lets face it meeting someone online is kinda weird and she probably took the risk...but if she's response to your kindness with more kindness and shyness she's definitely into and just wants to take things slow...remember most girls...well maybe all girls...have been hurt before and are just be careful about the next person they meet... About the kiss if the mood is right and you feel as if she's not going to reject you and make you feel like a fool go ahead...remember you go 90% and let her go 10% (the movie hitch don't know if you've seen it awesome movie to go see together on a date)...
Author Sckott Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 No, I know exactly what you mean. I'll approach and see what she does....
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Just do what comes from the heart and be yourself a girl really likes it when a guy makes her laugh at least I do...if she does move away in a nice way just be like "well maybe next time"...and give her a kiss on the cheek... that will keep her thinking about what it would be like or feel like to kiss you...
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by Sckott No, I know exactly what you mean. I'll approach and see what she does.... There's a European trick, always works for me. I kiss girls anyhow on the cheek when meeting or leaving (this is kind of expected here - you could probably get away with it if done with confidence?). So here it is: If I think girl is ready for the big kiss, I either vary the approach pattern or slow down on the goodbye kiss. And watch her reaction...
alphamale Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by Sckott I'm certainly not the type to invade when it's not the time. Why not SCKOTT? Many times "invading" when it is not time shows confidence, strength and assertiveness in a man. Show her you're attracted to her and have some ballz. Women like guys like that.
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 I agree with alphamale...we do like guys to sometimes give us a little challenge and mix up the signals...it makes us wonder WTF...where did that come from?? Next thing you know we're jumping out of a plain with you...lol
Linlin Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Go for the kiss man. If you have spent all this time with her and she seems to enjoy your company and you her, I would be dying for a kiss by now. But being who I am, I would have kissed you by now.
Author Sckott Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Never was originally correct, btw. She mentioned a past bf that stalked her months after breakup. It didn't seem like she was really bothering her anymore, but hey... OH! Then I asked why the "short emails". She explained she didn't type all that fast or well (she doesn't) and she rather talk in person. She said the same thing about our 1st telephone conversation that lasted about 1Hr. "I wanna meet so we don't get let down. I don't want to create an imaginary relationship until we can spend time". So she's been on the caution, fer sure.
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 You see you just have to break her in eventually she'll give in...
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