rdet123 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Hello all, i've been a lurker here for awhile and decided to ask you guys a question I have. I am going on a date tomorrow night with a guy I met online. We are doing dinner and a movie. I am curious from a guys point of view if you think I should offer to pay for the movie if he pays for dinner? I don't want him to think i'm using him or are a cheap skate if I don't offer to help pay for anything. What do you guys think? Thanks!
Crila16 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Ok...I'm not telling you from a guy or girls point of view. I'm telling you from a going on a first date with a "MAN", not a boy's point of view. First date, he asks, he pays. End of story. 2
TheyCallMeOx Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 As a guy, I wouldn't go on a date with a woman if I didn't feel she was worth the money. My biggest concern is whether or not you have a good time and you feel comfortable being yourself. If you and I both have a good time, I would buy you the world. 1
smackie9 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 There's a difference between a date and a meet up. If he says "Would you like to meet up at Starbucks for a coffee" then you offer to pay your portion. Since he has asked you on a proper date, he is paying. There are some guys that will argue about this, some will say they like the idea of her offering to pay, others look at it as she's not interested and feels obligated to... What you can do is offer to buy the popcorn or drinks at the movie. If all goes well ask him out for lunch.
Ami1uwant Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 It's actually a difficult situation on the guys perspective... I've been thru this. If I am on a date and she offers to pay I will let her. Why...it's a damned do/don't type of situation where some will not want to date you because you let them pay while others won't date you because you wouldn't let them pay. Also some men will view her paying as a sign of no interest. If she pays then there isn't some implied quid pro quo because he paid which then implicitly say to him I don't want to have sex with you. Thus he doesn't bother calling for a second date. Were this later like on date 4 where a relationship was established then there I'd less risk. Also if you two are similar economically then it will be expected you pay on some dates.
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Ok...I'm not telling you from a guy or girls point of view. I'm telling you from a going on a first date with a "MAN", not a boy's point of view. First date, he asks, he pays. End of story. Awww... I big tough rough macho "MAN" huh? He's so big and macho that he pays, huh? Ony that big strong MAN is enjoying the date huh? OP, offer to pay. Its shows him that youre having a good time, and that youre and independent lady. That youre secure in yourself, and have "No hangups"
slizl Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I dont like the movie part (especially on a first date), but I woudln't mind if the girl offered to buy the popcorn and drinks after I paid for dinner and the tix 1
Author rdet123 Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 Thanks everyone for the responses! Appreciate it!
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