Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 So I met this really beautiful girl in my class. I started a conversation about the class and introduced myself to her. We talking throughout class and I even made her laugh. At the end of class I asked if she wanted to eat lunch together which she agreed to, she agreed to lunch with someone she just met and gave me her number to set it up. At lunch we talked for about an hour and a half and I thought we really hit it off. We never had an awkward silence but I didn't flirt because I didn't want to be to forward initially. Now I'm going to see her again next Monday and I wanted to say "I want to take you out to dinner tonight." At dinner I would hope to flirt with her and that way my romantic intentions would be clear. Do you think this is a good idea? Side note, she doesn't text that much with me. I think she's busy, but she must at least not dislike me, because she wanted to hang out with me even though she had stuff to do that day we first met. She even told me after by text how much fun she had.
Crila16 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 What? Yes. Seriously? This is probably the most simple question ever asked on this site. Yes ask her out for dinner. You like her and she likes you...and I hope you invite us all to the wedding.
Author Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 What? Yes. Seriously? This is probably the most simple question ever asked on this site. Yes ask her out for dinner. You like her and she likes you...and I hope you invite us all to the wedding. Lol, but somehow I can't ignore the possibility that this might be a just friends kind of thing from her perspective. I mean I never really know with girls.
Cunning_Linguist Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Which is why you make your intentions clear from the beginning. The statement "You never know with girls" is actually because of your own inability to communicate (subtly or not) your intentions. If you're confident you make it clear that you find her attractive and want to know more.
Author Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Which is why you make your intentions clear from the beginning. The statement "You never know with girls" is actually because of your own inability to communicate (subtly or not) your intentions. If you're confident you make it clear that you find her attractive and want to know more. Ya, i'm not arguing with that, I'm just saying she might not see me the same way. But I guess the only way to find out is to just do it.
Author Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Should I not say the word date to let her interpret it whatever way she wanted. That way she would be more likely to agree. Then at dinner I could flirt and make my intentions more clear. What do you think?
Crila16 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Then you need to ask her on a date...like now. You don't want to venture into friendship zone, so you need to make your intentions clear. Once you're in friendship zone...sometimes it's tough to crawl out. I can tell you...this girl likes you as more than just a friend. You don't have anything to worry about.
Author Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Then you need to ask her on a date...like now. You don't want to venture into friendship zone, so you need to make your intentions clear. Once you're in friendship zone...sometimes it's tough to crawl out. I can tell you...this girl likes you as more than just a friend. You don't have anything to worry about. Alright i'll ask her out and say the word "date". But i'm gonna be ready for rejection (don't worry I'll still be confident when I ask her). Only because it's a possibility.
Crila16 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 You don't have to use the word date. Just say "Hey. Would you like to go to dinner with me on (such and such) night? That says it all. Saying the word date is kinda...I don't know. Old fashion...unless she's into that. Oh...and let us know how it goes. She's not going to say no. I think she's interested.
Author Darkray117 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 You don't have to use the word date. Just say "Hey. Would you like to go to dinner with me on (such and such) night? That says it all. Saying the word date is kinda...I don't know. Old fashion...unless she's into that. Oh...and let us know how it goes. She's not going to say no. I think she's interested. God, watch her say no. But okay.
Elle1975 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Ask her, yes. You will find out about her intentions during dinner.
oberkeat Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Alright i'll ask her out and say the word "date". But i'm gonna be ready for rejection (don't worry I'll still be confident when I ask her). Only because it's a possibility. I don't think you should use the word, 'date'. It's too formal and cliche.
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Yeah the word "date" has so many stuffy conotations that go along with it. I never use that word. If the girl wants to use that word, thats fine. As a guy though, dont do it. Anyway Dude, Always flirt, Always do it. You dont have to be super-dirty, but you dont want to have lunch with her and come across as her brother. Good luck
leavesonautumn Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Sounding like a broken record here but don't say date. There's a lot of pressure associated with it and frankly, it should almost be assumed that it's a date. If I was interested in someone as a friend, I wouldn't ask them out for dinner, I'd say "Let's meet for lunch". You should ask her out, don't think "you never know with girls" because you literally don't! She could be wondering how to ask you out or when you'll ask her out. Do it sooner rather than later, express interest and don't focus on the worst that can happen. You're not invested in her, you just want to get to know her .
Author Darkray117 Posted October 7, 2014 Author Posted October 7, 2014 Here's what happened: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/496525-mission-failed-follow-up-my-previous-post
fred123 Posted October 7, 2014 Posted October 7, 2014 if u ask a girl to dinner is it implied its a date? cos i did and assumed it was as more than friends and she turend around after and when i questioned her she said i go for dinner with my friends
Recommended Posts