Darren2013 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 I hear some women talk about how they give obvious signals to a guy they are interested in but unfortunately what is obvious is open to interpretation. What she perceives as obvious the other guy may not perceive it that way and many signals can be explained away for friendliness, etc. Eye contact is one of those things that have room to be explained away. There are some women like my crush who just have a natural tendency to look at people in general because that's just how they are naturally. So a guy can't really interpret eye contact as a buying signal because some folks just like to observe other people because they find human behavior intriguing. However I will say that with the way things have been with my crush and I the last 6 weeks she will make it a point to look everywhere else except me. She will avoid eye contact with me but as I have said before on more than one occasion I have caught her looking at me when my back is turned and at a time when she thinks I won't know it. Sometimes I will be heavily ingrossed in an assignment and then all of a sudden it is like something in me urges me to turn around and there she is looking directly at me. I'm not saying that's a definitive sign of interest either but it is something to talk about because I know how she is normally and she is normally the type to look at people in general. So with the recent avoiding of eye contact on her part is a little odd. Besides that I have made every effort not to look at her too ever since my feelings have progressed mostly because I don't want her to see me looking at her. So there's been alot of sneak peek games. So eye contact is not a definitive sign of interest. Lack of eye contact is not a definitive sign of disinterest either since they may like you and they learn to perfect the art of looking at you without you knowing about it. It takes practice but some people are really good at using the corner of their eye approach to look at someone they have a crush on. Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Your so right! I find looking in the eye a bit hard to do. As facial expressions are so easy to use without true feelings. There has not been one woman, bikini clad or nicely dressed that has caught my attention through the years. So expecting me to glance or look in interest is just going to throw one off. I always have been shy around peeps i don't know, so lack of eye contact is one thing shy peeps may have in common. Link to post Share on other sites
LoneIsland Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) Eye contact definitely works for me. But some women are better than others. With some of them they are able to transmit unmistakable signals just with the eyes. Women smiling at me doesn't work. I usually just think they are being courteous or maybe they are nuts. Another signal that took me quite a while to get is their occupation of your space. Imagine you are sitting at this spot, and you have to go away briefly. When you come back, you find the woman has either placed her possession on that spot or she's sitting in that spot. That is a signal of interest. Some women would refuse to move off the spot if you don't get it, even if that spot is your chair at your office desk. Edited October 3, 2014 by LoneIsland Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 It is definitely difficult to assess. However, if you are paying very close attention, even if it appears to be a passing/fleeting glance, a woman's eyes will show signs of interest if they are there. They will brighten up ever so briefly and maybe a very slight upturn of the lips, raised eyebrows, tiny little things that she doesn't even realize are happening. Same is true for men. It's very hard though from a distance. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Darren please just ask her out... I am really looking forward to the day when you post "Well its not that bad"... Followed by something along the lines of "I asked her out she said yes and we had a great time"... Just see if she wants to go and see a film or something will you... Back to topic the "Diana" look where the head is tilted down and they look up through their eyelashes and yes looking at you when they think you are not looking are all signs... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 OP, here's a little tip about women: They're very aware of when men are 'crushing' on them. We're pretty much clueless about 'hiding' such things. That's why we have a penis. It sticks out. Once they're aware, even if we're not aware they're aware, they can easily play with that. It's kinda fun. Regardless of whether they have genuine interest themselves or not. They know we do and, if we're not creepy about it, they like the feeling which comes with knowing one guy, or ten guys, or a hundred guys, is/are interested. Yes, that's a generality, but one I've found to apply to more interactions than not in life. It's the one there, at the end, who defines what a 'buying signal' is. The one who's stood the test of time. The rest are unknowns. I've got one whom I watch carefully as a study of this phenomena, one who flirted quite openly in the past before I knew she was married. Now, a couple years later, she's divorced and I continue to watch how it works, helping me to define and understand all the past interactions with others which left me puzzled. Slowly, clarity emerges. If she wasn't young enough to be my daughter, I'd probably ask her out on a date and end it, as was typical in the past when I didn't understand such things. As it is, it's kinda a fun, especially watching the other young men as this object of their desire plays with daddy. We have a good time, I think. Don't worry about eye contact, posture, smiles, touching, and especially when they rub their breasts on you. It means nothing. Ask women out on dates whom you find attractive. Keep it simple. If you have a crush on this person, your answer will come shortly. Or, conversely, you can go through life analyzing it and end up like me, though I was married for awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 3, 2014 Share Posted October 3, 2014 Well, while eye contact is a sign of interest, IMO, there are other things that may be at play... Also, I do agree that observing how people treat others to see if they're "different" with you is also another indication of whether or not they're into you... Going back to the other things at play.... I sneak peaks on my crush on the regular...(maybe he's figured that out already), but I try not to be so obvious cuz he's involved with someone, he changed his mind about hooking up a while back, and I don't want to weird him out. So, like today, I FINALLY was able to exchange a few words with him and while I wanted to be like all sexy and say something cute and/or seductive - I just kept it quick and like casual and just asked him like "How's it goin?". I mean, I was about to walk up to him and stand there and engage him in convo - but again, I don't want to weird out the guy... All in all, what I did today may be perceived as a reduction or lack of interest, but I'm gonna keep it light cuz I'm hoping if I cannot be "pushy" and I can engage him on a friendly basis - maybe one day I can escalate it to something sexy So, when I see him, I say "Hi", but I'm kinda slow or apprehensive about it - not cuz I'm not interested, but cuz I don't wanna freak him out or come off as desperate or pathetic or something. So, there you go, there are times that more is at play than what appears to be.... Link to post Share on other sites
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