NeverGivingUp97 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Sigh... this is going to be a long post and I'm not pretty sure that someone can answer this Okay, so there's a girl in my school that I have a crush on for a year. I'm pretty sure that she likes me back because she's looking at me all the time. (Like 30-40 times per day. It's a crazy number.) The problem is that there's something wrong with her (First of all we're 17 years old). She doesn't really talks with anyone. While she hangs out with some friends, she doesn't really talk that much. Noone knows a thing about her. She tends to avoid ANY conversation that is about her. A friend of hers once asked her "What is your favorite movie" She responded "I don't remember" (That's a minor example). She doesn't like eating in front of people so she crawls somewhere and she eats alone. The only thing that I know is that she really loves her sister and she's the only person that she hangs out with outside of school. (She's 20 years old) Now from my side. We've been looking each other for 1 whole year! Every day, every time. When I first approached her, we talked outside of school but she would never tell me anything about her. Also she tends to come up with some weird answers. For example one day I asked. "So why don't you say a "Hi" to me when we're in school? I've seen you many times in the hallway" She responded with "I see many people in the hallway" (Wut?). The most weird thing is that sometimes she talks really silently and in a really fast way, so I can't really say what she said. Some other times, when we talk, her phone rings (sister on the phone) and she just ignores me. However as I said, while on school she's going to look at me all the time but we never talk. Don't knoe what's wrong. I've talked about this to 2 trusted friends (A male and a female). They both responded with the same answer "She likes you!" At first we used to talk more often and she was more positive, but now any try for conversation is going to fail. Even if we look each other all the time I'm not pretty sure what's wrong with her, so I hope that someone here can respond. I don't even know what to do anymore. Thank you!
Redhead14 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 There's no way for anyone here to be sure what's going on with her, but her "secretiveness" is a flag. That is indicative of someone who has been or is being abused. There is a significant self-esteem issue here if nothing else. I would tread very lightly here. Even if she does like you, you will struggle with being able to get close to her and for her to open up and a relationship is unlikely to develop or if it does, it will not be a healthy one. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask her out, but if you do, just be her "friend" for a while until it becomes clear what she's about. Don't get yourself or her hurt.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Though I am a guy, sounds like me when I was that age. She seems shy from what you say, and the other issues are that she is comfortable being a loner. It does not mean she won't allow time with peeps, just she feels more at ease with one person or just being alone. As for prioritizing you with calls. That I see with all women at one point or another. I am not a multitasking person with thoughts. You can easily see it in peeps when they watch a show and you talk with them. Either they are focused on just one thing going on. As for favorite stuff... I too had that issue. It seemed to me when asked, I enjoyed too much to find what was my true favorite. She may have a wee bit of a disability (now peeps call things they don't fully understand disabilities), as I do... meaning as for me, I have a lack of expression about joy and hurt. My happy face, throws peeps off because I am subtle with how I express myself. I get very happy but never ecstatic as such. Peeps may think I am a downer. But when I am alone or with a person I know and trust, I am more open and try to express myself better, as I am aware that I need to. You may find her creativity or abilities that are broader than yours, as I have some that many around me don't know. So to me the disability if you want to call it that, is not much of one, just taking time to understand and accept it, once that is done, communication and and understanding her will be a no brainer.
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Naa she doesnt like you OP. Her answer to that question that you asked, means that she doesnt think that youre very special to say hi to. Move on
mightycpa Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 She's dumb as a ****ing bucket of rocks maybe?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 She's dumb as a ****ing bucket of rocks maybe? There is a reason why I am the way I am around peeps like you, not that I take offense, just don't like how negative you are at something you don't understand.
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