lillypolo Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 ive become good friends with a guy from uni. We had a little bit of a thing last year for a few months but then we broke it off due to him having some personal issues and ex hang ups. one of the reasons we parted ways was that he didnt feel a spark with me like he did with his ex, as he was still massively hung up and not sure if it was really over. He told me he was very happy to have me as a friend though. He tried to get her back, but nothing ever came of it. recently he told me that he had decided she wasnt right for him and listed all the reasons why We remained friends, I started seeing someone else a while ago and hes fine with that. We text and talk online every day at least once; we've become a lot closer friends in the past few months or so, he has confided a lot of personal things in me, which im sure he has never told any one else. But every time I ask if he wants to hang out, he gets a bit funny and says hes too busy, or makes some excuse; though he seems to have time for all his other friends. We do get on very well, but im worried I have done something wrong. Any one shed some light here?
Xiang Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Depends if he is really as close to you as you say and nobody else. He might just like you more then that, have a crush maybe? But he won't admit it because of who knows what reasons like... Maybe he doesn't want to mess with your RL, or he doesn't want to lose you as a friend, etc. But i think he likes you more then that. He might realise it's just a crush and not love? idk ^^. I'm going through something like this myself...so i'm just telling you what i am thinking from my end since it's similar, take is as you want. I have this BFF girl friend, we talk on a regular basis and i help her with work, speak online/phone calls. But she has a boyfriend for 3 years now, going to get married. She hinted at more often so i had to cut some contact with her and it stopped. We confide in eachother personal stuff and she admited to me being her best and kinda only true friend. You know that saying when she has to ask me "is this emotional cheating?" it is. xD We still talk since she is my best buddy but it's all platonic now, maybe throw a flirt once a month... just yesterday i spent my time with her from afternoon to almost midnight. But she isn't from my town, so we have yet to meet face to face. Anyway each time she invites me over, and she does so often. I'm like "yeah sure i come..."..."not". She want's me to spend time with her and her BF when i get free time from work, but i am rather reluctant to go because i might **** it all up. And i get good with her BF too xD. The tension is still there, often enough, i can feel it on her end, and i really don't want to slip.,,,and ik it's just a crush, not more...
Author lillypolo Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Depends if he is really as close to you as you say and nobody else. He might just like you more then that, have a crush maybe? But he won't admit it because of who knows what reasons like... Maybe he doesn't want to mess with your RL, or he doesn't want to lose you as a friend, etc. But i think he likes you more then that. He might realise it's just a crush and not love? idk ^^. I'm going through something like this myself...so i'm just telling you what i am thinking from my end since it's similar, take is as you want. I have this BFF girl friend, we talk on a regular basis and i help her with work, speak online/phone calls. But she has a boyfriend for 3 years now, going to get married. She hinted at more often so i had to cut some contact with her and it stopped. We confide in eachother personal stuff and she admited to me being her best and kinda only true friend. You know that saying when she has to ask me "is this emotional cheating?" it is. xD We still talk since she is my best buddy but it's all platonic now, maybe throw a flirt once a month... just yesterday i spent my time with her from afternoon to almost midnight. But she isn't from my town, so we have yet to meet face to face. Anyway each time she invites me over, and she does so often. I'm like "yeah sure i come..."..."not". She want's me to spend time with her and her BF when i get free time from work, but i am rather reluctant to go because i might **** it all up. And i get good with her BF too xD. The tension is still there, often enough, i can feel it on her end, and i really don't want to slip.,,,and ik it's just a crush, not more... well, lets put it this way. We have known one another for about 8 months now and if he ever has any decisions to make, or conflicts to resolve, things he is unsure of, or just wants to talk he comes to me. His 2 female housemates have said to me on numerous occassions that he seems to resepect my opinion more than anyone else's, ie. he'll ask their opinions and then go..." ok, well i'll go and ask Lilly " Then will make a decision on things after he knows my thoughts. If he's happy, or sad, I know about it - he's notoriously poor at keeping in contact with people, yet make sure we talk pretty much daily, give or take a day. Hes a very reserved shy guy, yet he cant help but talk about deep things with me, hes incredibly open and really seems to enjoy that- hes never had that with anyone else before apparently. Maybe he just sees me as his confident?
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 whatever happened to that relationship that youre in? This guy is not into you OP
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