Author Haerts Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 He's now acting odd. I asked if he had plans for tonight and he pretty much said that he talked to a few friends and they're going to two places tonight. For the first time, he didn't invite me, even though everytime he goes out with these friends he does invite me. I said that something's wrong, that he normally invites me to go out with them but this time he didn't. And he said that there's nothing wrong, he only said what his options were and that I can go if I want. We always know when the other one is acting weird though. I should just accept that it's over, find a way to have a real conversation with him and break up. It's not being healthy for me and not for him either. And here I go back to the dark. Awesome. I really wonder if one day the time will come that I'll meet a nice guy who's compatible with me.
Crila16 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 See...now this little challenge that he's giving you is going to make you want to like him. DON'T fall for it. If you do it back to him, he'll be singing a different tune. I don't like this guy for you. He's manipulative. 2
Author Haerts Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 You're right. You guys are all right. And I know that. It's always so hard to accept though, but I'll get over this. I hope tonight we get a chance to talk. I'll do my best to meet him, to make sure I quit feeling this way. I'm tired. I deserve better.
Author Haerts Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 I just wanted to say thank you for all your support once again. I thought a lot about it. We met and I broke up. I already cried a lot, afterall I still like him and he was my first boyfriend, but I feel like I've thrown away a lot of weight out of my shoulders. I feel free, I feel soft and I feel like all I need right now is time to heal, move on and meet the next guy. And try again! I'm sure eventually someone great has to appear. At least someone compatible with me. Do you believe that when I told him I wanted to break up, he said "okay then"? Like it meant nothing? To be honest, I was already expecting that kind of reaction from him, but wow, he never showed a lot of affection and all but he didn't even ask what was going on. Wouldn't someone mature at least question or wonder what happened to make me want to break up? Wouldn't they ask me what's wrong to see if we could fix things together? Regardless, I don't think I'd want to continue anyway, but at least it would show that he cares and perhaps I'd consider trying again. Funny though how even now that it's over, I still wonder whether he wasn't really that interested or if it was just his insecurities playing the starring role in our relationship again, even at its end. Anyway, I'm good. Everything's gonna be alright. Thanks to all of you again.
writergal Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I think you did the right thing Haerts. Take care of yourself.
Diezel Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I never understand why people get upset about not being asked/approached/talked to in a certain manner, even though they got the result that they inevitably wanted.
Author Haerts Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 I never understand why people get upset about not being asked/approached/talked to in a certain manner, even though they got the result that they inevitably wanted. Had he showed that he cares, asked me what's wrong, why I want to break up, what happened to make me take this decision, it would show that he cares and I'd have said everything to him. I was going to say everything anyway, but he pretty much didn't give me room for it. THEN, after that, we'd see whether we would try again OR break up. All he said was "okay then", like, "whatever, I don't care". An hour after that he texted me saying he loves me, that he doesn't understand what happened, that he wants me back and that he saw a future with us together. I responded him because afterall, I think he's an amazing person and I don't want him to be lost, but he has to deal with his insecurities himself. I told him we can talk, and he said we both need some time to think about everything before having a conversation, and I totally agreed. Regardless, I'm feeling okay, peaceful and today I had this sudden urge to get up and do a lot of things. Work on my college stuff, clean my room/house, go out tonight with some friends, do something else outside to keep my mind off of things... LIVE. Of course I'll miss him and I'm sure there are going to be tough times, but I'm okay with everything I've done, I don't regret anything. Right now, all I want is for him to be happy. And I want to be happy too. Even if that means we'll go our own ways.
LoneIsland Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 All he said was "okay then", like, "whatever, I don't care". He did that because he knew from the beginning what you were going to do. So it was no surprise to him. 1
CharlieFox Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I was sure that you're a Cancer. Anyway, you did well. Just keep your mind off this for a while, and continue focusing on other aspects of your life. 1
Author Haerts Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 He did that because he knew from the beginning what you were going to do. So it was no surprise to him. Actually, I think he was a bit surprised. He has said many times (not yesterday) that he was expecting me to cheat on him, to treat him bad, to be a bitc*, to break up with him, to find someone new and ditch him... and so on. He said that he would rather think that the worst is coming than pretend it can't happen, 'cause apparently that way he's preventing himself from suffering. I still think that's a really negative and stupid way of thinking, which only helped things to go in the wrong direction. Maybe that's why it was no surprise. But he said he was happy with me and a few days ago he's also said that it never crossed his mind that we'd break up. Still never trusted me as a whole. Hard to have a serious relationship with someone who doesn't trust you, right?
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