throwaway321 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I'm 25 and have been in very few relationships mostly because my first serious one went for a steady 5 years. That ended earlier this year, somewhat amicable split because it has been long distance for a year and she couldn't handle it anymore and I could understand though I didn't want it to end. A while after that I find myself in a month-long relationship with lady #2 where I felt she was PERFECT, for me the chemistry was insane. It ends with her crying and saying she doesn't want something so serious and she didn't want to see each other anymore even as friends. In a way I'm just thankful it ended so early before I could get really invested. A bit after that I find myself in another relationship where an acquittance approached me about going out. It has become apparent she's really into it and I'm so on the fence and how she does not see this I have no idea. To make things worse, I recently made friends with someone who is so similar to lady #2 it's uncanny. I know inside I'd much rather try dating her even though she has given no indication she would want a relationship. I'd never 'cheat' in the convention sense in going behind a partner's back but I just feel hindered by my first relationship since I have so many habits and expectations now. I know it would be best to just end it with my current lady but I also don't want to be alone, selfish I know. Sorry if this comes off as rant-y and manchildish. I don't know how else to write it.
me85 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Ya gota get out of your current RS. Please don't be selfish like that. Not fair to the girl you're currently seeing. And if you really think about it, it's not all that fair to you either. 1
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Yeah, you do seem like a manchild. If you cant be alone, you shouldnt be with anyone else. Says something about your self=esteem that you think that way
lyndaaxo Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I agree with the above. It sounds like you need to be alone for a while to re-assess what you want, and wait for that person to come along, rather than looking for it so you're not alone. I've been there, and I'm still kinda there myself, but I'm taking some time out for me and I'm feeling a lot more positive that there's someone suited for me.
nerd Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Dump the one you're not certain of. Ask out the interesting chick. If she says yes, great! If she says no, take a day to be alone and be happy. Then ask out another girl. Best of all worlds.
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