tory1012 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 So last night I stayed at the ex's house it was something that we arranged earlier in the week. When he met he looked me up and down ( i've had my hair done and lost weight ). I just want to try and figure out whether he wants to take things slowly are it was to appease his physical desire's & lonliness. He was surprised to see what I looked like and he said " wow I haven't seen you for ages" ( It's only been like 3 weeks). Anyway so when we get in the car he literally cannot keep his hands off me and holding my hand. He says stuff like "i've missed you so much" So we get dinner and watch a movie and he is SO affectionate and of course we sleep together twice. During that he says I love you and the second time he asks for us to "make love" as opposed to just "f**king*. Even after the sex he was really affectionate and in the morning I recieved a text from somebody who is actively pursuing me and I told him. He basically couldn't believe I was seeing somebody already , ( which im not this person just obviously likes me). I made two rules about the evening 1. we don't talk about our relationship what went wrong or just anything to do with relationships lets just enjoy eachothers company 2. not to talk about if we have been with anybody. When he dropped me off I said so where to from here - he basically said to me that we should just keep talking for now. I'm just a little confused. What do you guys think?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 So last night I stayed at the ex's house it was something that we arranged earlier in the week. When he met he looked me up and down ( i've had my hair done and lost weight ). I just want to try and figure out whether he wants to take things slowly are it was to appease his physical desire's & lonliness. He was surprised to see what I looked like and he said " wow I haven't seen you for ages" ( It's only been like 3 weeks). Anyway so when we get in the car he literally cannot keep his hands off me and holding my hand. He says stuff like "i've missed you so much" So we get dinner and watch a movie and he is SO affectionate and of course we sleep together twice. During that he says I love you and the second time he asks for us to "make love" as opposed to just "f**king*. Even after the sex he was really affectionate and in the morning I recieved a text from somebody who is actively pursuing me and I told him. He basically couldn't believe I was seeing somebody already , ( which im not this person just obviously likes me). I made two rules about the evening 1. we don't talk about our relationship what went wrong or just anything to do with relationships lets just enjoy eachothers company 2. not to talk about if we have been with anybody. When he dropped me off I said so where to from here - he basically said to me that we should just keep talking for now. I'm just a little confused. What do you guys think? I think you done a boo boo... obviously you ran this one on expectations, as well as he. I would have been up front with the ex telling him your dating. Though, are you thinking of starting something with your ex??? Your acting as EX is FWB, and EX is acting like possible get back together. Sorry I can't be of any more help than what I see. You need to set things straight, one way or another.
Zahara Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) I read your past threads. This was not a good move on your part. You've just broken up with this man. Nothing much has changed since then. And trying to rekindle and including sex with the man before you both are honest with your expectations is just foolish on your part. The one that is the least invested is in control. Don't pay attention to the amount of affection that he displayed because when in the moment, people get carried away. Case in point, he went from adoring you to let's just keep talking for now. Your past few threads, a week or two ago, he said to you that he'll be single forever, that he's patterned this way in his past relationships, that he doesn't feel the same way anymore, that he's been on FB adding other women -- what would make you think that much has changed since then? You've received unanimous responses as to you stepping away from him. Don't be the girl that he uses to get sex (you even noted in one of your threads that he may have hinted about you going over to get your things -- wanting sex) and don't be the girl that he puts on the backburner to help him transition to the next phase. Edited October 3, 2014 by Zahara
Simon Phoenix Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I think you've set yourself up with a FWB situation. If that's what you wanted, congrats. if that's not what you wanted, you need to stop doing this crap and go No Contact.
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