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I can't tell if he's interested or just clueless.


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So four weeks ago I met a guy at a professional business party. I was instantly attracted but didn't make the first move I waited till he came over to me. We talked with exchange numbers I briefly told him I was going to a bar with my girlfriends and had left for the night. A few hours later he's there at the bar with his guy friends looking for me, I'm completely flattered but I was getting ready to go home for the evening. He texted me the next day and said he wanted to go out for drinks later in the week.

 

A week went by and I heard nothing from him... I finally texted him and tried to make small talk leading to the fact we should hang but he doged the question. I gave up on him all together.

 

It was my birthday two weeks ago and he texted me randomly saying that he would take me out but was in San Francisco and would like to take me out when he got back. I finally got to see him last Saturday!! We had such a romantic time together anytime we walked he always held my hand, was very interested in me and really paid attention to everything I said. At the end of the night I had a little too much to drink but didn't want him to take care of me so I was going to drive home (Stupid I know) he said I should go home with him but he wouldn't make any moves on me he just didn't want me to drive home drunk. I agreed and went to his place where he took care of me put me in pajamas and just cuddled me all night. We kissed in the morning and he drove me back to my car and said he really wanted to see me again later in the week and that "I"should text him when I'm available.

 

Well I waited till Wednesday and I got a text from him... He said his week wasn't going so well but wondered how mine was. I said great and I asked him what was wrong? He didn't answer me for eight hours and said he was having a roommate drama. I gave him my a sympathy and said that maybe we should de-stress each other Saturday night again. He didn't answer me all night and all day????? I finally said today, I guess you're having a lot of trouble with your roommates I'm sorry! He quickly replied back to me with, I'm okay I figured everything out and has not spoken to me since and has completely avoided my question of hanging out.

 

 

Am I doing something wrong here? Is he not interested or is he clueless? I really like him but I can't tell if I'm a back burner or if he's really busy.

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Chalk it up to him not being interested AND clueless.

 

Just move on. If YOU have to be the one making the moves on him.. forget it.

 

At this point, he should be trying his darndest to get into your pants.

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This guy seems like he knows what he's doing. He gives you just enough rope, but no more.

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I think his room mate is EX or rocky relationship with SO.

 

He probably was on the edge of breaking away, then went back.

 

Stuff like that happens, as you just started getting together, so really knowing him will be a mystery.

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He kinda sounds just either really busy or sorta casually dating. Not relationship ready. But could be fun to be had.

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He's just living his life.

you havent asked him any direct questions.

He seems like a busy guy, he has stuff to do.

 

Your little rendezvous sounded nice though

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lovesickgirl,

I can't tell if he's clueless or just being manipulative.

 

Either way he's wasting your time.

 

Move on.

 

Good luck

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