They Just Got Tired Of Us

[me85]

I see a lot of people on LS who still struggle to understand what went wrong in their previous RSs and why their exes left them. To be quite frank, they simply just got tired of being with us. Believe me, I know firsthand how hard it is to accept that fact and how much it hurts but you have to. You have to stop questioning it and accept that it's over. Our egos are to blame for us holding on as long as we do.

 

And when they tell you, "It's not that I don't love you" they may or may not be lying. Who knows? But do you really want to stick around while they drag out their explanation for why they don't want to be with you anymore? And that how their love for you has changed? That's sort of allowing them the opportunity to not feel bad about it. "well they must be ok with it, they still talk to me." That's the way they think.

 

All we really need to know is that they left. They don't want to get back together no matter what they tell you because if they really did want you back they'd do anything to make it happen. They'd come running to you. They wouldn't just call or message you and fill you with false hope.

 

It's so hard to get over a broken heart but the only way you ever will is to accept that it's over and never look back again.

 

My heart goes out to anyone going through something like this. I went through it too. I wasted a lot of time asking why too. But I think we spend too much time in denial about it. We just don't want to admit to failure but that's just the thing! We aren't failures because our previous lovers don't want to be with us anymore. Not even. "If only I would have done this or that they would still love me" ... UGH! Thinking that way will drive you insane. Please don't torture yourself like that. Some RSs just aren't meant to last for us.

 

No one should mourn themselves to death over the loss of having someone in their life who no longer wanted to be there and left. And no one should ever think they're not good enough for anyone just because their ex thought they could do better than them. Well, the dumpee can do better too. Definitely.

 

"To have a broken heart is a good thing. It means we have tried for something."

 

"It won't last forever. Nothing does."

Edited October 2, 2014 by me85

[StrangerThanFiction]

I see a lot of people on LS who still struggle to understand what went wrong in their previous RSs and why their exes left them. To be quite frank, they simply just got tired of being with us. Believe me, I know firsthand how hard it is to accept that fact and how much it hurts but you have to. You have to stop questioning it and accept that it's over. Our egos are to blame for us holding on as long as we do.

 

And when they tell you, "It's not that I don't love you" they may or may not be lying. Who knows? But do you really want to stick around while they drag out their explanation for why they don't want to be with you anymore? And that how their love for you has changed? That's sort of allowing them the opportunity to not feel bad about it. "well they must be ok with it, they still talk to me." That's the way they think.

 

All we really need to know is that they left. They don't want to get back together no matter what they tell you because if they really did want you back they'd do anything to make it happen. They'd come running to you. They wouldn't just call or message you and fill you with false hope.

 

It's so hard to get over a broken heart but the only way you ever will is to accept that it's over and never look back again.

 

My heart goes out to anyone going through something like this. I went through it too. I wasted a lot of time asking why too. But I think we spend too much time in denial about it. We just don't want to admit to failure but that's just the thing! We aren't failures because our previous lovers don't want to be with us anymore. Not even. "If only I would have done this or that they would still love me" ... UGH! Thinking that way will drive you insane. Please don't torture yourself like that. Some RSs just aren't meant to last for us.

 

No one should mourn themselves to death over the loss of having someone in their life who no longer wanted to be there and left. And no one should ever think they're not good enough for anyone just because their ex thought they could do better than them. Well, the dumpee can do better too. Definitely.

 

"To have a broken heart is a good thing. It means we have tried for something."

 

"It won't last forever. Nothing does."

 

I totally agree with you. I know it's hard accepting that someone you love doesn't want to be with you anymore, especially when they throw out breadcrumbs and crap like "maybe one day we'll get back together". But like you said, if they wanted to be with you they would be. Took me quite awhile to understand that but now it's firmly entrenched and it's helped me to let go of a lot of pain, anger, and hope that was just holding back my healing process.