Johnnsmith Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I have know this girl that i like for 4 years and i have liked her for four years, a day hasnt passed where i havent thought about her. In the last 3 months we have became good friends and i like her more than a friend but she has a boyfriend. She has been giving me signs that she likes me such as when at a party she would always sit by me, if i leave the room she would follow, smile at me when we look at each other and when i walk past her she would like touch me to let me know shes there. We text each other every single day both starting the consversation. She has always been asking me to tell her who i like could this mean that she likes me and she wants me to tell her that i like her. Shes does talk to me about her boyfriend in both a postive an negative way about him. But the thing is i dont get is i think she likes me but then she goes off always and seems happy with her boyfriend. Could this be because she does like me and she doesnt think i like her so she doesnt want to ruin her current relationship? Recently she text me saying someone told her that i liked her but she thought they was messing and started to give me reasons why i wouldnt like her. I agreed and said no as i felt it would be awkward telling her by text as i want to tell her face to face. did i do the wrong thing by saying no and did she mean anything else by asking this question such as could she he have wanted me to say yes? what is the right time to tell her that i really like her.
sid3 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 what is the right time to tell her that i really like her. Likely after you've been dating for a few months, but considering your particular circumstance, I'd say when she doesn't already have a boyfriend. 1
Gaeta Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Dating purpose is to find a compatible life partner. She is not married, she does not live with him, they are only dating. Gf and Bf break up all the time to find better suited Gf and Bf. Tell her how you feel, let her decide which man she wants to be with. You are not doing anything wrong. If she picks him then respect her choice. 3
Jules Dash Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Dating purpose is to find a compatible life partner. She is not married, she does not live with him, they are only dating. Gf and Bf break up all the time to find better suited Gf and Bf. Tell her how you feel, let her decide which man she wants to be with. You are not doing anything wrong. If she picks him then respect her choice. You the real MVP.
me85 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Dating purpose is to find a compatible life partner. She is not married, she does not live with him, they are only dating. Gf and Bf break up all the time to find better suited Gf and Bf. Tell her how you feel, let her decide which man she wants to be with. You are not doing anything wrong. If she picks him then respect her choice. I was just about to give the same advice. Well said. 1
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 You put your self in the friendzone. She doesnt like you. You have no value to her as a man, youre like a gay best friend. Move on See other women and stop the friendzone obsessing
NJ123 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Dating purpose is to find a compatible life partner. She is not married, she does not live with him, they are only dating. Gf and Bf break up all the time to find better suited Gf and Bf. Tell her how you feel, let her decide which man she wants to be with. You are not doing anything wrong. If she picks him then respect her choice. This girl should respect her boyfriend though & not be chatting with other guys through text behind his back. Especially with her initiating convos to him. I doubt she'd like it if he was initiating conversations with girls through text behind her back. Sorry, but guys & girls can't just be friends if there's sexual attraction. I doubt OP would still stay friends with her if she stays with the boyfriend over him. Since he'd be friend zoned & he admits he thinks about her every single day.
almond Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Dating purpose is to find a compatible life partner. She is not married, she does not live with him, they are only dating. Gf and Bf break up all the time to find better suited Gf and Bf. Tell her how you feel, let her decide which man she wants to be with. You are not doing anything wrong. If she picks him then respect her choice. This is true, however, I think a certain level of respect should be shown to the person that you're currently seeing. If you're actively looking for a more "compatible" partner, then you shouldn't be wasting the time of the person you're currently with, messaging other people behind their back and such. Break up with them - don't keep them on the line till you can hook another first. This girl is clearly disrespecting her partner, and I find this kind of behaviour disgusting. OP, sure...you can tell her. But don't be surprised if she ends up acting this way with another man a few months down the line once she is bored with you. I have no respect for women that act as she is, and if you choose to enter into a relationship with her after having witnessed this behaviour, I wish you all the luck in the world - you might need it 1
Gaeta Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I read nowhere that her texting him was a secret. He is part of her social circle, she is not secretly communicating with him behind her boyfriend's back. They are interacting as friends as I understand it. If he tells her his feelings then how she handles it will speak loudly of her character. She will need to make a choice and not mislead one of them.
almond Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Yes, it does appear that they may perhaps be in the same social circle...but I very much doubt her boyfriend knows that she is texting other guys asking them if they have feelings for her! I assumed she is acting the way OP described, which is definitely inappropriate, behind the bf's back.
d0nnivain Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I'm not a big fan of declarations before there is an established romantic relationship. However, I think for your own sanity you need to put some distance in here. The next time you see her in person before you back off, I'd say something along the lines of I need to put a little distance in here. I like you and would very much like to ask you on a date but you have a BF & I'm trying to respect that so I'm going to back off. If your status changes, let me know Do not beg her to break up with him & do NOT confess to having liked her for 4 years. 1
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