Justm3x Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I know im going to be told i shouldn't and please don't slate me for it, ive learnt my lesson, but i couldn't help myself.... I met my ex on facebook 7 years ago and after a year or so he closed his account because he hated my male friends commenting on my stuff and it caused arguments. So thankfully I cant check anything he's up too.. BUT the woman he had the affair with and is now with has and i checked her FB.... 6 months they have been together and NOTHING... no pictures of him or any together, she went out to the Caribbean, where he now lives and works to see him within a week of us breaking up. All she posted was 2 beach photo's. I checked her relationship status and she went from single to in a relationship while we were still together, which did crush me to see it, everyone is asking her who she is in a relationship with but she hasn't replied to anyone..... I just thought it was strange. I did this a month or so ago but not checked since as im now trying to stop torturing myself and so far im being strong... I'm just curious as to why she isn't posting anything about him, when you start a relationship usually its all lovey dovey and you cant help but want to share your happiness, but not in their case.... Anyone got any ideas why, as im baffled by it.......
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Not everybody lives & dies by silly ole FB. It means nothing. 3
Author Justm3x Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Not everybody lives & dies by silly ole FB. It means nothing. Your probably right, but she posts about everything else ...
Brooke02 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Her privacy settings are probably set so you can't see everything on her FB. My ex was obsessed with FB, makes me sick. I have no desire to even check my own because if it. 6 months, you shouldn't be going on there at the risk of hurting your recovery.
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 He may also hate FB so much that he "forbid" her from talking about him on there.
Author Justm3x Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Her FB has never been open, I saw her profile picture on my ex's brothers FB and I recognised the pool area she was sat at. At that point I only had suspicions that my ex had cheated on me, my best friend added her as a friend and she accepted him it was the only way I knew for sure it was her and it confirmed that my ex had been having an affair and everything then fell into place. I saw conversations she had with my ex's brother as she was his friend and she mentioned his name. I did this in July but not done it since... As I say I knew it was a mistake as soon as I'd done it but It wasn't what I was expecting to see.
StrangerThanFiction Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Just from reading some of your other posts, I've kind've gotten the feeling that she's really not as into the relationship with your ex as maybe he is. That's just what I've picked up, I could definitely be wrong. Either way, bad bad bad for checking up! Not that I'm one to talk, I still FB stalk the woman that I'm pretty sure my ex is seeing (still. Again?). I understand the morbid curiosity, though. But we both have to stop it. Anything we see or don't see will just make the whole healing process go a lot slower and on a lot rockier of a road. Put a whole lot of thoughts in our head that don't need to be there when we're trying to focus on ourselves and our lives instead of theirs, you know? 1
AaronSG Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I to learned the hard way about checking my ex-fiance's Facebook. About 4 weeks ago I checked her page and was very hurt to see her boasting and bragging about how life was all so much better after returning home and moving back in with her parents. I was floored, because for the most part what she was boasting about, she already had while living with me, I guess due to the fact that I wasn't attached to anything anymore made it better for her! But it hurt all the same, and I made a tough choice and that was to deactivate my Facebook account and leave if alone for a minimum of 6 months. I feel somewhat better for it, I'm not tempted to check or stalk, and it saves me the grief after I was checking it. Also I did the same on Twitter and Instagram, granted I won't lie, not being able to check in on her from time to time is hard, sometimes I'm tempted, but I just keep reminding myself that what she does isn't my business anymore, and it spares me the heartache if and when she finds someone new, I really don't want to see that!
edgygirl Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 Can you please do yourself a favor? Please block this woman from your / your friends facebook and not ever look again? What really matters from this story is that he is not with you anymore, so his idiotic life shouldn't matter. I know it's almost impossible to feel this way, but the truth is the more you stalk is the more you'll hurt and the longer your process will take. That's just the way it is for everyone. If he was deserving of your love, he would be with you and not with her That's how we should look at these retards. Let him go. He's not all that. There are other people in the world. You will only see them when you stop being interested in his life. Good luck and good healing. 2
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