CT98 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 2.5 weeks since BU. Had a moment of weakness earlier and checked my ex's Instagram. I was crushed to see that she'd deleted all the photos of me/us. I just feel like I never existed, it wasn't a terrible relationship and there are memories that I will hold dear for my lifetime, but it seems like she doesn't want to remember any of it. It's a horrible feeling. I know I'm going to get the 'it's only Instagram' replies, but when you're going through a break up it's not, it's memories. Lesson learnt though, must stay away from social media for quite a while. I guess it adds some finality to it for me, like it's definitely over, and any hope I did have for her coming back has gone, which I suppose will be a good thing for me moving on. But for now I just feel really hurt that I could just be forgotten in the blink of an eye. Stay away from social media, the people on this board who tell you to avoid it do so for a reason.
dumbass2 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I've checked as well in the past. Most of us probably have at some point. Don't take is though she just thought nothing about your time together. She may just realize that it was really over and this is what she feels she has to do to move on. It doesn't mean she doesn't have some photos of you together somewhere else, she just doesn't want to see them everyday and be reminded because it does hurt. Realize though that you should probably be doing the same thing. I took all photos and put them away out of sight in a folder somewhere on my computer. If I had left them up in places that I look at constantly I would not be able to move on. Did the same with all material items. You need to do what's best for you and not think about what the other person is thinking. Easier said then done and I have not always followed my advice or advice given to me, but when I have it has worked and when I haven't I have self inflicted my own pain. Remember you are doing this to yourself, she is not doing it to you. Hang in there 2
Dontfindme Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 It's possible that what she's doing is for herself. Perhaps she needs the sense of finality too to get over the relationship. It is good - as you mentioned - in aiding you to move on - which I hope you do. Good luck!
Justm3x Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I agree... I just posted a thread about what I did, yes I finally found out the truth but there were more questions than answers, so I've not looked at it since.
me85 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 We've all done it at least once. Good thing you learned your lesson to not do it again. Hopefully you are no longer friends with her on any social media what so ever. My ex broke up with me and saw that I had removed all pictures of him and us on there and got really upset and couldn't believe it. Then he got upset that I blocked him. I find it hilarious. WTF? You broke up with me and are shocked that I did those things? Really? It's the first step I take in getting over someone...DELETE! Out of sight, out of mind. (tho we all know that's BS but it does help) 1
herself Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I've checked as well in the past. Most of us probably have at some point. Don't take is though she just thought nothing about your time together. She may just realize that it was really over and this is what she feels she has to do to move on. It doesn't mean she doesn't have some photos of you together somewhere else, she just doesn't want to see them everyday and be reminded because it does hurt. Realize though that you should probably be doing the same thing. I took all photos and put them away out of sight in a folder somewhere on my computer. If I had left them up in places that I look at constantly I would not be able to move on. Did the same with all material items. You need to do what's best for you and not think about what the other person is thinking. Easier said then done and I have not always followed my advice or advice given to me, but when I have it has worked and when I haven't I have self inflicted my own pain. Remember you are doing this to yourself, she is not doing it to you. Hang in there Get real strong and delete your instagram facebook and email and block her #. For one when you check these its crushing...wait until you see pics with a new guy. You dont need that heartache. Pretend she's out of the country or dead...whatever you need to do to get her out of your thoughts. Blocking her in ANY way gets rid of hope. If she CANT text you...you wont be looking for her texts and communication. YOU are what matters now. Get to the gym if you have to drag yourself. Listen to WAY different music and build a new life. She loses a good guy in the end. You got this! 2
edgygirl Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 I know how you feel, it sucks big time and it's hard as hell. But maybe she also is hurt somehow and prefers not to see your pics to also get completely over it you know? It took me 4 months to delete him... I also had a moment of weakness in the last few days for the first or second time. I was there, with my hand on the mouse, saying: "do not click it, the images you're going to see will never leave your mind". but I did. and there they were. chills to my spine. I was shaking. I'm shattered and haven't really eaten in days. But it made me finally delete him from all my social media sites. Good thing is his stuff is not public so now I won't be able to see it. It's the only way to go. I wish I had done it before. I hope to forget he ever existed.
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