Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Im in a weird situation, somone PLEEZ tell me what i should do. 2 years ago i wnt out with a girl. then she dumped me. But then she went out with me. then she dumped me. thiis happened several times. Every now and then since the final break up we would talk, or she would pass me notes ect. But i never wanted to ask her out again because i was afraid she mightnt like me, or what people would think aobut us goin out again. ANYWAY, she messaged me on my phone, aking if i liked anyone. stuff happend and it turns out she likes me. we sorta simoltainiously asked eachother out, but SHE wanted to keep it a secret for a while while she introduced it to her freinds one by one. i wasnt opposed to the idea. So, its monday, i go to school, talk to her, but dont to anything that might make people get suspitious. That afternoon she messaged me saying she told a friend but it felt wrong. She didnt think she could do thi anymore and wanted to stop. i suggested not keeping it a secret. one thing led to another and she ended up saying somthing like "Why cant you let me go? i realy like you but i dont want to hurt you." Then i, genius that i am, pissed her off by saying. "Why do you think i dont want to let you go? Telling somone you like them then changing your mind the next day is bound to hurt somone. im not proud of what happend last time but i was willing to forget that and peoples remarks for another chance with the girl of my dreams. Ive changed, but your still a little girl who cant make up her mind and likes to play on peoples feelings." She was sick today and didnt turn up at school. She says she likes me, and i realy like her. Shes, like, the only girl i can talk to comfertably. i like being around her, but i dont know what to do, or how things are going to be between us anymore. What should i do? Like i said i REALY like her. But, im just s confused and upset that i was such a dickhead. AGH!
Author Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Well, this is definatly helping my depression
Mr Spock Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 People often don't read posts where the sentences are all lumped together. Think paragraphs. You're not a dickhead. Why waste your time on a girl that flip flops and plays games? You're in school, and still young. Tell her that if she doesn't smarten up you'll date other girls. Ones that don't mind being public about it.
Author Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Therin lies the problem, im not sure ther ARE any girls who id date instead. U C, im a Nerd in the procces of melding into an Un-Nerd group.
Author Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 And im not an expert when it comes to talking to them. Its like, "Oh crap, what do i say now?"
glitter_bug Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 hello, Sorry this isn't really the answer you would like to hear but anyway.. Find someone else. She doesn't sound like she likes you 100%, and you DO deserve someone that does. Maybe if you find someone else that will make her realise what she is missing out on (the whole 'you don't know what you've got until you lost it' thing). She probably does like you ..as a friend. It sounds like you connect with her, and she likes to hang out with you and chat with you. But if she was really into you then she would be easily able to make up her mind. She wouldn't care if other people knew or not. She wants you around, but not as a boyfriend
Mr Spock Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 The trick is not to care what other people think. And if anyone says something snide to you simply say "F*ck you" or "Go F*ck yourself" This girl is giving you the run around. And she's not the answer to not being a nerd. It's better to have real friends who are nerds than semi-cool jerks who treat you poorly.
Author Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Yeah, but my freinds tret me fine. Im just low on Lady Freinds
Mr Spock Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Oh well then, who gives a sh*t? You can just spank the monkey until you find a girl deserving. Really, if you have friends bide your time with them. The sooner you learn the lesson that wasting your time on someone who doesn't like you is stupid the easier your life will be. Flirt with other girls. You just never know.
Author Noboyinparticular Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 i think i might just do that. Thanks guys, youve been a great help.
SleepingLover Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Hey dude! Don't worry about whther or not you are a nerd! LOL! Being nerdy never killed anyone and some women, yes even very attractive women like us goofy nerdy guys! The guys many of them shy away from ar arrogant full of themselves types. You are in school, so the girls are gonna be a bit more fickle, but that means you'll need to be a little more agressive when it comes to taking action. Your first step is to tell this girl to bugger off. When you do that, she might realize that you are now a take charge kinda guy rather than a brown nose puppy dog will follow her everywhere and take her crap type. Trust, me if you are a little assertive, being nerdy doesn't mean squat. Like yourself and be confident, that is what women like to see. They like a man who walks upright and chin out, knows what he is talking about and gives off an aura of confidence in himself. Your exterior appearance, as long as you are cleaned up and well groomed won't mean squat. I went through all that in high school. Nobody would date me, but then I had no idea what I was doing wrong. I don't look too much different 20 years later but I have young women hit on me all the time and it is flattering. Don't let life ride you, grab her by the horns and ride her til you break her... take charge Oh an BTW, I'm guessing you are still in (maybe) high school? If so, keep in mind that many of those girls you think are georgess now might not even remotely appeal to you when they are say...25. I go back to my high school yearbooks for a good laugh sometimes and say "OMG, I'm glad I never ended up with her!" because now... well... looks like an overripe pear. Eeeeeeww.. Shame on me.. I shouldn't say that, but just trying to make a point that they will change...oh boy will they. Some of those you might think are dogs might blossom and surprise you too Keep your options and eyes open and be sure to take some intitiative even if it is a little bit at a time.
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