Author chados Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Then, where is the problem ? You can keep feeding her the pleasure. i dont think i have done enough. i think i didnt see this as a big deal. maybe i still dont. but for her it is. also the birth control made her body react really bad. she started to have constant periods. not saying she could get pregnant but her period didnt stop. and she started to feel scared wether it was the hpv or the birth control. she also started to get cramps in her body which she still has. and she doesnt know what causes it. shes just really scared of everything that happend so fast.
Emilia Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 i dont think i have done enough. i think i didnt see this as a big deal. maybe i still dont. but for her it is. also the birth control made her body react really bad. she started to have constant periods. not saying she could get pregnant but her period didnt stop. and she started to feel scared wether it was the hpv or the birth control. she also started to get cramps in her body which she still has. and she doesnt know what causes it. shes just really scared of everything that happend so fast. How about going to see a gynecologist/doctor?
Author chados Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 How about going to see a gynecologist/doctor? she has. but shes still worried to go again. which she will soon
Emilia Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 she has. but shes still worried to go again. which she will soon If she is bleeding like this and keeps getting cramps, it could be endometriosis. Needs to be looked at certainly but it's relatively common and not malignant.
mightycpa Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 well i think that we all react differently. shes been genuinly scared about this. and if i told you everything you would understand. 99%of the people on this site are here because at one point they needed advice. i dont think its bad to ask strangers. its hard to find friends thats been through this too. No, it's not bad. But most people come here because they are having difficulty sorting out their own feelings. They're torn, or heartbroken, or in doubt or angry or whatever. Your post asks for advice, but not for you. You are asking for how to deal with somebody else's feelings. You seem to have already made up your mind about what to do. So, you're really looking for validation that what you're doing is right, and how can you do what you want to do more effectively... I think that's it. I guess then I'd say that you ought to rephrase your original question, declare that you've already made your decision that you're in this to stay, and ask for the specific advice that you seek. Given that, I still think you're too close to help. She has to go to a third party to get this out of her head. Whatever the cause, and whether I understand it or not, what you describe is irrational. That she is being irrational may indeed be understood, but it doesn't solve the underlying problem. I see two possibilities: Fear has crippled some portion of her natural personality. It is a problem, it might point to deeper problems of unknown cause and severity and she needs at least some help with overcoming irrational fear. I don't think you can do that. Just try to steer her away from magic pills. This is something that she needs to deal with forthrightly. or She's a drama queen and thrives on stuff like this. You can't help her, you can only feed this impulse. If this is true, you'll see it in other areas of her life too, whether that is family, friends, school, jobs or all of the above.
Gaeta Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 i dont think i have done enough. i think i didnt see this as a big deal. maybe i still dont. but for her it is. also the birth control made her body react really bad. she started to have constant periods. not saying she could get pregnant but her period didnt stop. and she started to feel scared wether it was the hpv or the birth control. she also started to get cramps in her body which she still has. and she doesnt know what causes it. shes just really scared of everything that happend so fast. Your girlfriend is an uneducated drama queen. * Hpv is nothing. It's a virus just like the wart you got on your feet or hand is a virus. About 95% of women in their life will have an encounter with a form of hpv and most will never be aware of it. * If EVER her strain of hpv turns into cervical cancer then she's still lucky in her badluck because cervical cancer has a treatment success rate of 98% or something. * Birth control pills screws up her period? OMG so it does 50% of women out there!! she needs to suck it up for the 3 first months OR she ask her doctor to change to another birth control pill. *Other birth control methods are available such as IUD. * She concluded just like that that her last boyfriend cheated on her because she suddenly discovers she has hpv? sigh.....Most of the time there are no symptoms in men with hpv, no test. If her ex was her only sexual partner yes she got it from him but it means in no way he was cheating or he was aware he was caring it.
Author chados Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Your girlfriend is an uneducated drama queen. * Hpv is nothing. It's a virus just like the wart you got on your feet or hand is a virus. About 95% of women in their life will have an encounter with a form of hpv and most will never be aware of it. * If EVER her strain of hpv turns into cervical cancer then she's still lucky in her badluck because cervical cancer has a treatment success rate of 98% or something. * Birth control pills screws up her period? OMG so it does 50% of women out there!! she needs to suck it up for the 3 first months OR she ask her doctor to change to another birth control pill. *Other birth control methods are available such as IUD. * She concluded just like that that her last boyfriend cheated on her because she suddenly discovers she has hpv? sigh.....Most of the time there are no symptoms in men with hpv, no test. If her ex was her only sexual partner yes she got it from him but it means in no way he was cheating or he was aware he was caring it. yes the successrate is high. but it runs in her family and we all react differently. the period thing and that she got cramps like crazy from it made her uncomfortable. she's tried 3 different type of pills and a shot. and she either went crazy or got some other sideffecs. its almost certain that he did cheat. he tried to control everything she did. he started to hang with a girl on the side that liked him. it was so much that i cant evern remember. however. drama queen? yes. i feel like a lot of girls are.
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