Anela Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 My parents remarried. I'm very glad that they did. 1
gaius Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 I have no experience with going back to an ex, but I do want to congratulate you, OP, on THREAD #500 started! It's a remarkable accomplishment! Irc is a prolific content producer who doesn't get enough credit for his work around here! TaraMaiden is with us no longer so she can't answer you though irc. 2
Xiang Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 With the right circumstances, i don't see why not. Let's say you had a LDR. financial problems or whatnot and the only reason you broke up was because you couldn't see eachother, if later in life you happened to move next to one-another to try again, then yeah. People sometimes do things on the spurt of the moment and don't give a relationship a good chance and it ends quick cuz of diverse reasons, depending on those i am willing to try again. But i wouldn't try again with someone i obviouslty tried and didn't work, like a +1 year relationship and so forth.
Author irc333 Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Irc is a prolific content producer who doesn't get enough credit for his work around here! TaraMaiden is with us no longer so she can't answer you though irc. Oh okay, she was quite the regular here. What happened with Tara?
CT98 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 It can go either way can't it. I know one couple who broke up, didn't see each other for 4 months, happened to be at the same house party and have now been married for 20 years. Also know another couple who broke up for 10 years and are now back together and going strong. Then there's people like me, who got back with the ex who dumped them only to get dumped again 10 months later. I will say that it never feels the same, I was ALWAYS on edge waiting to be dumped and then what do ya know....
hotpotato Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 If a woman breaks up with you and asks you to leave her alone or to stop trying to contact her and then you show up at her house. Nothing good would come of it. You may not believe that, but I highly suggest you never do it. Ask a few women what they think about the scenario. I'd call the cops if the guy wouldnt leave. I think thats called stalking.
somedude81 Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 If a woman breaks up with you and asks you to leave her alone or to stop trying to contact her and then you show up at her house. Nothing good would come of it. You may not believe that, but I highly suggest you never do it. Ask a few women what they think about the scenario. And nothing good would come out of not trying to talk to her in person. All I know is that I only talked to my ex over text and email after she dumped me. And due to the impersonal nature of the medium we weren't really able to communicate. Also I said some things over text that I would never say in person. Most likely talking to her in person wouldn't have led us to getting back together. But I would have a better chance of getting closure. We also could have parted on good terms. Which we didn't do since she's blocked me from all forms of communication. Basically, relying on text and email as the only conversation method was a bad move on my part.
leavesonautumn Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 And nothing good would come out of not trying to talk to her in person. All I know is that I only talked to my ex over text and email after she dumped me. And due to the impersonal nature of the medium we weren't really able to communicate. Also I said some things over text that I would never say in person. Most likely talking to her in person wouldn't have led us to getting back together. But I would have a better chance of getting closure. We also could have parted on good terms. Which we didn't do since she's blocked me from all forms of communication. Basically, relying on text and email as the only conversation method was a bad move on my part. Honestly, we can look back but we will never ever know what could have happened. I don't know your relationship but calling the cops would be a drastic move so I agree with you, I doubt that road is ever really taken unless the ex was abusive, stalkerish or had a restraining order against them. My ex came knocking on the door (it's a bit different though, he was the dumper) and we ended up clearing the air and obviously, had sex. Talking about the issue in person was a lot better than the texts we were having that went in circles. However, both people have to want to talk in person and if they don't at all, then there is just no use. It's unfortunate because a lot of people who are broken up with through text or email feel they need closure. I don't necessarily agree with "closure" but in person is a lot more respectful and texting is cowardly. We were in long term relationships as adults, not 15 year olds who were together for 2 weeks. Every time my ex dumped me was through text or just the silent treatment and every time he wanted me back it was through email. It's just too easy. Sorry if this reply is rambling a bit but to sum it up. If both people in the relationship were respectful, mentally healthy and not abusive then not ending it in person is a cop-out and makes the break up that much worse. 1
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