ZimboGon Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I'm at a loss here, guys. Now, first off i think i'm a pretty good flirt. Making girls laugh and messing around with them comes naturally... as long as i'm not interested in dating them. This girl is something else. So, i've had a new job for about two months and she's been here awhile. We've talked a bit about stuff and gotten to know each other somewhat, and we make a point to greet each other when we come in. I've just been out of the game, awhile. How do you branch out from a work friendship to an outside friendship? I'm not just going to ask her out one day at work, as i think that would be weird. We aren't even friends on facebook or anything but i don't want to do that and send any weird implications by looking her up in the first place as we share no mutual friends. So basically my strategy is to just keep talking to her at work and hopefully form a stronger friendship out of that. But its so hard to get out of my own head. Before i acknowledged i was interested in her it was so easy to talk to her, and now its a struggle not to slip up my words.
Diezel Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 So what's the HR policy on relationships within the workplace? 1
d0nnivain Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Assuming there are no HR policies against it & neither of you is in a supervisory position over the other, you get to know the person. Take your breaks together. Try to have meal break together. Go out of the work place if possible. Try to arrange drinks after work, first with a group then just the two of you. From there you can ask her on a date.
Author ZimboGon Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 So what's the HR policy on relationships within the workplace? Surprisingly relaxed. Its a big company and there's a lot of employees. Several of them are in relationships but i'm not sure if they got hired already together or started dating after meeting each other on the job. They all, however, work in different positions.
Crila16 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Make sure it's a girl you really like and can see a future with. Otherwise, don't S-ht where you eat. BIG mistake. Take it from someone that knows. I've done it more than once, and it never turns out good.
cdt76 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Dude. This is not a good idea. From personal experience, it is a bad, bad, bad, bad idea. If she moves on to another job or you do then find. But leave personal issues outside the workplace. In the long run, you will be happy you did. Put yourself in the mindframe of how awkward would it be when you two had sex, dated for a few months, fell in love and then broke up? Imagine seeing her everday. Imagine hearing she is dating someone new. How much more difficult is it to get over someone you see everday? Let work be work.
Author ZimboGon Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Dude. This is not a good idea. From personal experience, it is a bad, bad, bad, bad idea. If she moves on to another job or you do then find. But leave personal issues outside the workplace. In the long run, you will be happy you did. Put yourself in the mindframe of how awkward would it be when you two had sex, dated for a few months, fell in love and then broke up? Imagine seeing her everday. Imagine hearing she is dating someone new. How much more difficult is it to get over someone you see everday? Let work be work. Eh, i don't care about that stuff. I'd rather not let someone i'm interested in go that easily. I've been in relationships, they've ended, and I have moved on. Although i don't usually go into relationships expecting them to end and anticipating the cleanup.
Diezel Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Eh, i don't care about that stuff. I'd rather not let someone i'm interested in go that easily. I've been in relationships, they've ended, and I have moved on. Although i don't usually go into relationships expecting them to end and anticipating the cleanup. But have you worked with your ex's after you two broke up?
Author ZimboGon Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Regardless, does that make it okay to not pursue someone you have romantic feelings towards which could lead to a great experience? I don't go into relationships thinking how it could go wrong and I wasn't asking if it was okay to date a co-worker guys. I was simply asking for tips on how to go about it
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Ask her if she knows any place around town to hang out. Basically ask what she do for fun, if she knows any cool places. Then say "You'll have to check out those places sometime" You should also, get to know cool interesting places yourself, then just invite her out there
Author ZimboGon Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Hah I wish it was that easy. I live in a pretty boring city. Only highlight is the wide variety of restaurants but I don't think I should be asking her to dinner quite yet.
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