my girlfriend cheated on me and I need to know if we can ever workout again plz Help!

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[color=blue][/color] Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost two years I know it's not that long and I've had longer relationships before I'm only 19 an I know thas kinda young but I do know that I know what love is to some extent and I know I love my girlfriend but a couple months ago I found out nmyself that she had sent naked pictures of herself to a couple different ppl online when I confronted her about it she denied it she looked me in the eyes and lied when I showed her my proof she admitted it we broke up for about a week and then got back together I think I went a lil easy on her because I've cheated on gf's in the past and I know how hard it is to admit that you did somethin F'D up to the person you love but a couple days ago it was our anniversery we were having dinner and since the picture incident I've felt just mad at her, never really settled about the whole thing because she did it out of impulse and without thought, I was jus bein a dic so she asked what was up and I told her that I was mad cuz of what happend we talked and eventually she slipped in a lie an I caught her there was one more picture she had never admitted to sending I was shocked because I didn't understand why when you have many chances and I mean many times when I've asked her is this all there was is this all thats happend and she replied yes many times when I've said tell me it all so we can put it behind us and she still lied now I'm not gonna pretent like after the first time we got back together stuff was perfect I mean we fight time to time you know and I think it's because when I've cheated in the past and I wanted to make stuff right I busted my balls to show the person I loved em and I wanted to be with them and she gets mad at me because she thinks its both of our jobs now I tell her that the only job I have is to be the best I can be for her but I didn't mess stuff up so the rest is on her I know that sounds mean but I mean I have high expectations for that I wouldn't expect somebody to fix a mistake I made like that so why should she basicly what I really wanna know is if this getting back together and working stuff out is really worth it were back together now and I don't really feel like shes trying as hard as she should be, she says she needs time to fix stuff needs this needs that and I'm thinkin in my head well hello whos the victum here nothing happend to you? what do you need all this and that for we have a pretty big age difference and I know shes alot less mature then me I guess my question is am I living a lie am I following false hopes an dreams for us or is she jus playin games with me an I'm missin the signs now I'm not tryin to be cocky but I'm a good person I'm good lookin I work an I'm about to start college I just really feel like I don't deserve to be treated like that cuz I havn't done anything bad like that to her please somebody if you read this tell what to do or atleast ur opinion cuz I don't know what to do and it's torturing me just wondering if this attitude she has is just a phase or if it's jus gonna suck like this and I needa move on please HELP REPLY A.S.A.P

[latesleeper]

hey mxdcomplex,

 

sorry to hear you're so hurt. seems like you and your gf need to sit down, put all else aside and talk honest. both of you have to commit to talking honest. and talk seriously and sincerely about what both of you want out of this relationship and see how you can help each other achieve this.

 

if talking face-to-face is too difficult without getting emotional, try writing a letter to each other and read them together. Tell her what you love about her, how she makes you feel, and why you want to be with her. Also tell her what is troubling you, what you're feeling angry about and what she can do to help you move on. Your gf's letter should be along the same thread (so she doesn't feel like you're the one telling and asking).

 

just my suggestions and thoughts.

 

it won't always suck as bad. i think you'll know if you read some of these threads here. so hang in there and good luck.

[tryingveryhard]

hi complex, hows it going? I had just written a huge reply and my 1 yr old just hit the keyboard and i lost it.

 

My story is very similar to yours 2-3 years ago. Do a search on my username for past threads, you will be blown away.

 

My advice for you is don't worry about it. Its can do alot of harm to your soul sort of speak. Just concentrate on yourslef. Because (now your not going to want to hear this) she has already lost faith in you and has decided to cheat. I wouldn't be kissing her ass thats for sure.

 

I know the feeling your feeling now. its not hurting but its more anger. you want to get back at her. don't do this. leave her or have a plan to still love her and treat her right.

 

will she do it again your wondering??????? well, look for the signs and treat her right, don't dwell on the past but look towards a happy future. Be happy first of all and then go from there. you can't make others happy but you can make yourself happy. work with what you got now and don't worry about losing things you can control. It will drive you insane my friend, it has gotten to me pretty good so far and it hurts alot but do things so it dosen't hurt so much.

 

I suggest you check out the book, "The monk who sold his ferarri"(sp?). Its not a religous book and is a good book to help you realize that your number 1 and to live life the best you can.

[strange love]

I read your post very very carefully.

 

All I see is that your gf sent some naked pictures of herself to a few people.

I dont really see that as cheating.

She probably did for some ego boost.

 

In any case it could be far worse.