Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 I know all of this and tbis is what I always believed. Now I guess I just need to make sure before I let it go. He did say I deserve better ( actually the emphasis was more on him and his wortlessness, which is not true and I find it being pathetic) but the next morning he apologized for texting me while drunk and asked me to have a breakfast with him and when I refused he said he will just wait in front of my apartment which he did and I had breakfast with him. He definitely has issues and all that emphasis on his own worthlessness is being just too much.
Zahara Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 (edited) I know all of this and tbis is what I always believed. Now I guess I just need to make sure before I let it go. He did say I deserve better ( actually the emphasis was more on him and his wortlessness, which is not true and I find it being pathetic) but the next morning he apologized for texting me while drunk and asked me to have a breakfast with him and when I refused he said he will just wait in front of my apartment which he did and I had breakfast with him. He definitely has issues and all that emphasis on his own worthlessness is being just too much. And if he's feeling worthless and unworthy, then the last thing you should be doing is seeking a relationship from him. And no, you can't make him see any different and love him enough to make him feel worthy. Somehow I think it's a BS line to keep you clinging even more. Edited October 3, 2014 by Zahara
Author Betsy_Beth Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 I somehow think it is true. He doesn't have a normal life. He does have friends but most of the time he is lonely (he lives alone and has a good job that he doesn't like). Most of the weekends he is visiting bars ( alone) and getting drunk. He kissed someone three years ago ( before kissing me) and did something ( can't explain here on forum what exactly) because he thought he would be single forever. Also, few months after we started seeing each other he told my besg friend he likes kids and would like to havd some one day but not a wife ( which I found extremely weird). All this makes me feel like he gave up on relationships or is not over his ex.
Lola2609 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 And if he's feeling worthless and unworthy, then the last thing you should be doing is seeking a relationship from him. And no, you can't make him see any different and love him enough to make him feel worthy. Somehow I think it's a BS line to keep you clinging even more. I kept reading the forum and saw few interesting topics I overlooked with my guy. For example, there was a girl whose guy was talking about being "too old" and some of you thought it is bothering hi and he needs reassurance. Well, I don't have any news from my guy, we have been going NC for 10 days. But I remembered him saying all the time "I am old" or "I am an old grumpy man". "You kids have fun" (when talking about me. There is 7 years difference in age between us. I dont think it is too much. Or once he found out a guy (who is a police officer) was trying to take me on a date but I turned him down. My bf said "well once the right cop comes along it will be another story". Another time he said something like whatever happened between us seems like a miracle but he feels good because he made it happen. And there are few more examples I can't think of right now. Could that be a reason for his inability to be with anyone in the relationship right now ( but when we are together he is just wonderful and puts so much effort)?
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