JasonJays50 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Im a guy in college & I have this friend and I know for a FACT that she used to like me & I think she's over me now. Since I didnt like her back, I just acted normal & never made any moves that would make her think I did. I asked her to do lunch one day on campus and she said okay. That morning, she texted me & asked if a couple of her friends that I'll call "Kim" and "Ana" could come (who I don't know) and I was okay with that. I met them & I introduced myself, made some jokes & they laughed. When we got our food, some of her other friends showed up & there wasnt any room at their table, so me & my friend & her friend Kim sat at another table. I texted my friend after lunch & told her that I enjoyed lunch & I hoped her friends didnt think I was weird, to which she replied that her friend Ana thought I was funny and she was looking forward to talking to me & was sad that we didnt sit at her table. Since then, I asked my friend to go to lunch with me and she seemed happy at first but she declined at the last minute. When I tell her she looks nice now, she just ignores it. Two weeks ago she texted me saying that her Kim & Ana were having lunch right then & I should come and join them. I couldnt because I had made other plans. We texted last Monday & I asked if she wanted to go to lunch on Tues & she said she couldnt but maybe that upcoming Thurs. I texted my friend that Weds night about lunch & she never texted me back. She finally texted me back on that afternoon and said that she had lots of homework the night before and didnt look at her phone until it was too late. She said she had alot of things going on & had to get her life back together & didnt text me until last weekend. I finally texted her again yesterday asking about lunch and she said that she had already eaten. The thing is, I only like her as a friend, but I actually like Ana and would like to get to know her better & I don't know how to bring this up since I'm afraid my friend might still have feelings for me & I don't want to break her heart by bringing it up. I dont know what to do? What is she doing? How could I ask her about Ana? Thank you so much!
cmonman Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Dude, I think she was TRYING to set you up with Ana after that first meeting. She specifically mentioned that Ana thought you were funny, and the next time she was with them, she thought "oh perfect, I can invite him to come!" Literally every other time you have tried to hang out with her, she has blown you off. She does not have those feelings for you anymore. I would suggest coming up with a fun group activity, and inviting her AND Ana. She will probably jump at this. Even better, you could throw a party and just casually say "hey, I'm having a bunch of people over/going to this cool party next weekend, you should come! I would invite Ana and Kim too, but I don't have their numbers" Basically, just find a way to start talking to Ana. I promise you, if Ana isn't dating someone else by now, you will be doing your friend a favor.
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