Lafd33 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 So heres the story... I am 22. Girl just turned 27... We are coworkers and hit it off from when we met. We hang out every other day basically, and text & chat 10 minutes after leaving eachother all the time. We get along perfect, have the same values & morals & beliefs, and just jive perfectly! I recently asked if she'd ever date me & basically said how I felt to her. She in return said she liked me as well & would be willing to date me no questions asked, but not yet. I later found out her last relationship was 7 years long, and was ended by him. I understand coming from her prespective all her friends are her age, getting married, and she thought that was going to happen with him & her. Her girl bestfriends all love me & her closest told her to her face she approves in her dating me while I was standing there. I know its not a case of leading on or not wanting to date me, its just her past hurting her currently. Opinions anyone? Thanks!
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 So heres the story... I am 22. Girl just turned 27... We are coworkers and hit it off from when we met. We hang out every other day basically, and text & chat 10 minutes after leaving eachother all the time. We get along perfect, have the same values & morals & beliefs, and just jive perfectly! I recently asked if she'd ever date me & basically said how I felt to her. She in return said she liked me as well & would be willing to date me no questions asked, but not yet. I later found out her last relationship was 7 years long, and was ended by him. I understand coming from her prespective all her friends are her age, getting married, and she thought that was going to happen with him & her. Her girl bestfriends all love me & her closest told her to her face she approves in her dating me while I was standing there. I know its not a case of leading on or not wanting to date me, its just her past hurting her currently. Opinions anyone? Thanks! If she says she is not ready, believe her. I recommend you stay friendly with her but give her space, no pressure. Even if she turned around now or within a couple of months, the wound may not be entirely healed. Not only that, you may just become a source of comfort for her, a false one. This is about You too. Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. I am speaking from experience. My fiance passed away and I could easily have gotten into another relationship but it would not have been about that person, it would have been about my fiance and missing him and filling that void. You will know when she is ready. And, don't be surprised if it's not you when that time comes. If it is, I'd be very happy for you. You are very sensitive. Stick by her, be there, but don't get too drawn in. She needs friends. 1
smackie9 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Better for you to stay out of the way, because she knows she is emotionally unavailable for a relationship. You can't force it, or make it happen. Let her sort out what happened to her, and give her time to adjust to life without her ex. It could take a year or less. Just don't get too close or you will end up being a rebound/ friend zoned. She needs to fill the void with other things first before she is ready.
Assasda Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 So heres the story... I am 22. Girl just turned 27... We are coworkers and hit it off from when we met. We hang out every other day basically, and text & chat 10 minutes after leaving eachother all the time. We get along perfect, have the same values & morals & beliefs, and just jive perfectly! I recently asked if she'd ever date me & basically said how I felt to her. She in return said she liked me as well & would be willing to date me no questions asked, but not yet. I later found out her last relationship was 7 years long, and was ended by him. I understand coming from her prespective all her friends are her age, getting married, and she thought that was going to happen with him & her. Her girl bestfriends all love me & her closest told her to her face she approves in her dating me while I was standing there. I know its not a case of leading on or not wanting to date me, its just her past hurting her currently. Opinions anyone? Thanks! Naa man, Its because you are a sap. You, Already put this girl on a pedestal. "OH sweet maam, will you ever go out with me" You probably screwed it up by doing that. - No one cares what her friends say. - If she is smitten with you, her friends could think that you are the devil-himself, and she'd still like you. - You telling what her friends think, has no merit whatsoever. Anyway get her off the pedestal that you've placed her on, and just ask her out and have fun with her
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