confused1001 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 How old were you when you started dating 'the one'? How did you know he/she was 'the one'?
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was 19 when I found the first "one". I married him and we divorced 30 years later. The second "one" I was 53 and we were engaged for two years before he died. There may not only be "one", but the "ones" you do find are treasures in their own ways even after its over. 5
quidproquo89 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was 19 when I found the first "one". I married him and we divorced 30 years later. The second "one" I was 53 and we were engaged for two years before he died. There may not only be "one", but the "ones" you do find are treasures in their own ways even after its over. thats really sad. Are you back on track, meeting new people? I've never met the one, ones i really like, usually reject me - oh well **** em
Redhead14 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 (edited) thats really sad. Are you back on track, meeting new people? I've never met the one, ones i really like, usually reject me - oh well **** em Yes, indeed, quidproquo. I am back on track. I am actually right now seeing two men that could become a relationship. I have made a decision to become closer with one of them and now have to say goodbye to the other. It's a bittersweet situation to be in, but a good one none the less. There will be more rejections than acceptances, for sure. But don't consider them rejections . . . they are simply not the "ones" and stepping stones to the right one(s). Take away something positive from each one and present your best self at all times Edited October 1, 2014 by Redhead14 1
cerridwen Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 (edited) With the first One, I was 19. I knew he was the One after he put his arms around me on a date. It defies explanation; it was simply a knowing. With the second One, 31. He had me at first PM. (Not really but he may be reading.) Edited October 1, 2014 by cerridwen 3
central Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 There's always more than one - it's just a matter of finding them. However, by far the best of those I did meet, I met at 45. I had enough relationship experience and knowledge by then to recognize extraordinary compatibility when I saw it. However, only time proves whether that recognition is real, or delusion. As it has now been 15 years, I am confident that she's the best I'm likley to ever encounter, by a wide margin.
2.50 a gallon Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 (edited) For me there has been three After years of dating and not finding anyone, I began to worry whether I was capable of falling in love. At age 27 I walked up to the check out counter at a sporting goods store, to find the clerk with her back to me leaning over a counter talking to her BF on the phone, She has a dynamite figure, but what really got me, was how her dark black hair glistened a reddish color where the light caught it, and she had the sweetest voice. I was already half way into falling in love and then when she turned around she had the face of a young Sofia Loren, Love at First Sight. Engaged for a couple of years, but never tied the knot Second age 35, we had been living together for about 2 years, and sort of got talked into getting married. I fell in loved with her when I saw her walking down the aisle. Only lasted another 6 months and I swore I would never fall in love again. Over the next 14 years I dated lots of ladies, and thought I was immune to love. Age 49, second date, first kiss. In two weeks we will celebrate our 19th year. Edited October 1, 2014 by 2.50 a gallon change word 6
GorillaTheater Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Just one One for me. I was barely 18. Our 31st wedding anniversary is coming up in December. 10
CarrieT Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I've had seven: First one at 14. Then 16. 20 - married him 25 - although he could never say the "L" word 29 - he lasted 11 years 42 - the one that brought me to LS 49 - I married him and believe he will be the last!
Quiet Storm Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was fifteen. I knew he was the one because I was very attracted to him and felt bonded to him, and he felt the same way about me. We treasured each other and loved each other fiercely. It know it sounds cheesy, but I knew that young that I eventually wanted him to be the father of my kids. I also loved his family. They showed me what a normal family was. Now I am 38 and we are married with three kids. People often say that young love doesn't last, but I think that's debatable. Most relationships don't last, and young relationships follow that pattern, as well. Immaturity & drama break many young couples up, but in our case, I think our youth made the emotions & attraction stronger. We grew up and matured together, and our separate goals, hopes & dreams morphed into "our" goals, hopes & dreams. We had people telling us "It won't last", "Be young, play the field", "you have your whole life ahead of you, why rush?"- but in our minds it was already a done deal. Why wait, why date others, why jeopardize something great- when we already knew? Long term relationships aren't always easy, and that connection kept us together through the more difficult times. It may have been the pheromones, chemicals and teenage hormones that initially brought us together, but I think that youthful intensity led to a deeper bond, which has kept us in that "you are the only one for me" mode for 23 years now. If it ended tomorrow, it would still all be worth it to me. 6
Haydn Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 You sexy old dog. Just one One for me. I was barely 18. Our 31st wedding anniversary is coming up in December. 3
xxoo Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was 17 when I found him and started dating him. I didn't know he was "the one" until I was 19 Before that, I was just enjoying life as a teen, and having an exciting romance. I went through some hardship at age 19, and one of the gifts of that experience was me understanding how special this relationship really is. He earned my commitment. 2
Mr Scorpio Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was twelve and she was thirteen. We didn't start dating until fourteen years later. Some things take time. 6
somedude81 Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 I was 31 when I found The One. Then she kicked me out of her life six months later. Now I'm looking for The Two. 1
Shepp Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Met her at 15, fell for her then, didn't start dating till 4 years later. I thought I knew it early on, just walking my dog with her, talking, sitting by the lake, knowing theres no where else i'd rather be I thought I reaslised she was the one. I've realised it plenty of times since though - our first camping trip, cooking together, spending Christmas together, meeting out sons for the first time, those long NICU days, 2am night feeds, our wedding day, our honeymoon. I've never really stopped "realising" it - I still realise it daily every time she cuddles up to me in bed, or gives me that look that only she can give that half says "i think your an idiot" or half says "I love you". If I had a quid over the years for all the folks that told me I was too young, or that it'd all wear off i'd be a wealthy man - but I see it like blackjack - folk all want to see you twist, makes an exciting game - but only you know what cards your holding, if you've got an Ace and a King you stick! 4
Haydn Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Quiet, he is a lucky guy. I am with Mr Scorpio on this one. 12-13, i was a fool, how could i let Terry Bradshaw weasel in........ Hope your boys are enjoying Jose and the boys put Chelsea back up there! I was fifteen. I knew he was the one because I was very attracted to him and felt bonded to him, and he felt the same way about me. We treasured each other and loved each other fiercely. It know it sounds cheesy, but I knew that young that I eventually wanted him to be the father of my kids. I also loved his family. They showed me what a normal family was. Now I am 38 and we are married with three kids. People often say that young love doesn't last, but I think that's debatable. Most relationships don't last, and young relationships follow that pattern, as well. Immaturity & drama break many young couples up, but in our case, I think our youth made the emotions & attraction stronger. We grew up and matured together, and our separate goals, hopes & dreams morphed into "our" goals, hopes & dreams. We had people telling us "It won't last", "Be young, play the field", "you have your whole life ahead of you, why rush?"- but in our minds it was already a done deal. Why wait, why date others, why jeopardize something great- when we already knew? Long term relationships aren't always easy, and that connection kept us together through the more difficult times. It may have been the pheromones, chemicals and teenage hormones that initially brought us together, but I think that youthful intensity led to a deeper bond, which has kept us in that "you are the only one for me" mode for 23 years now. If it ended tomorrow, it would still all be worth it to me. 2
Priv Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 You guys make me wonder if I should go through my elementary school yearbook and start looking for a date with the 9 y olds 1
Quiet Storm Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Quiet, he is a lucky guy. I am with Mr Scorpio on this one. 12-13, i was a fool, how could i let Terry Bradshaw weasel in........ Hope your boys are enjoying Jose and the boys put Chelsea back up there! Yes, they are loving Chelsea right now! 1
xxoo Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 - but only you know what cards your holding, if you've got an Ace and a King you stick! Well said! I was 31 when I found The One. Then she kicked me out of her life six months later. Now I'm looking for The Two. Is that a boob reference?
ThaWholigan Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I think I haven't met the one yet. I thought I'd met her 9 years ago, but was a false alarm and it took me a few years before I figured that out . Maybe a couple years from now I'll meet her, who knows - maybe I already have.....
somedude81 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Well said! Is that a boob reference? LOL no. Though I do hope The Two has bigger boobs than The One, since 2 is a bigger number than 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 37. Met him by accident online. We moved in together in June. November will officially be a year. I've never experienced anything like it. He is everything I've always wanted, but believed only existed in movies. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 I'm 23 and he is 27. I think he is "the one"...I've dated quite a few guys but no one is like him. ((Yeeeaaa I know the likely hood of him actually being the one is slim. But my heart says differently))
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 you mean the first gray hair .... I met my wife at 42 or so... so I'd have to say 42, then my son was born at almost 45.. he was the one too ! 3
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