baffled111 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 ok, my gf broke up with me about 3 months ago and we stayed good friends after we broke up, we hang out on weekends, talk everyday, and their is deffinately flirting done on both sides...their was only about a 2 week no contact period and then we slowly began to talk everyday again. my best friend told me he thaught we had secretly gotten back together and were just not telling anyone...im just not sure what i should do. we broke up because we argued to much over stupid things...when she ended things i realized just how huge these little arguments were to her and it changed my whole outlook...i HATE arguing now, i can let the little things go and work things out better, we havent argued really at all since we've been broken up. she is afraid of commitment and of being hurt and she says she doesnt really want a relationship now. I have not said anything about wanting to get back with her, nor have i told her i loved her since we broke up, even though she says she loves me all the time.(in fact i haven't told anyone besides family i loved them even in a joking way since we broke up because im afraid of being hurt again) I'm starting to date other people now, she seems ok with it, even eager to help me with what to wear etc.. i just dont know if she wants to be with me, but it seems like she likes me alot and just doesnt want the responsibilities of a relationship...like she believes that if we arent really going out no one can get hurt...i dont know...it seems to me that we are, to an outside viewpoint, dating, but we just arent admitting it.(if that makes sense) Or maybe its just wishful thinking on my part that she wants to be with me...any advice, opinions, etc??? oh, and i cant let this one go...
laRubiaBonita Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 like you said, you are a happier person when not arguing. I am sure you exude that, which is hot! sounds like yu two make better flirty-friends than anything else, so if you can deal, like when she starts dating others, and she can deal- as it seems she can....then stay buddies.
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Well from a girls point of view it sounds like she likes having you as a friend instead as someone she is intimate with...Maybe she needed out of the relationship to see if what was causing the arguing,was the fact that she wasn't "in" love with you, she loved you as a person...Their is a big difference with being "in" love and just love! A little hint ...A girl that is interested in a guy doesn't help him get ready for a date or pick out clothes...we would be sitting on that bad with a huge face on and saying in our heads "that stupid bi***"...lol So I think what you are doing...going out and dating is the best thing you could do...and maybe even draw a line to the relationship you currently have with her because if you do meet someone your ex relationship would interfere with your current one... Just go with the flow and do what you feel is right and if it does end up working out...Good! If not you learn from your mistakes
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