liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Do any other OW think that MM's wife is so lucky and envy her? I go through that a lot. I guess I am not thinking too clearly though when I think that. Sometimes a friend of mine will make me see how ridiculous that sounds. But then I start thinking it again. Anyone else?
izzybelle Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 i think in some ways i can understand why many OW would envy the W. afterall that's who MM goes home to, that's who in many cases they end up going home permanently to. in my case, i didn't envy her at all. i know that i only heard "his" side of things (well, for the most part anyway) but supposedly she was miserable and had been for many years. considering she was planning on divorcing him and had been talking that way for years, she had to have been incredibly unhappy. they seem to have perfected the art of making each other miserable. and yes, i would have loved to have been the one he came home to, but that was as far as my "envy" of sorts went.
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Mine has never said they are miserable but then I look at what he's doing to her and --well, how can you really envy that?
lynnered Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 i do sometimes , but i also have that thought that her relationship is an illusion , she thinks he loves her or at least only her she thinks he's happy obv something is missing if he's with OW at least with OW he's honest well mine was!! he told me he couldn't talk to her like he talked to me, sexually they are not compatible me and him were friends 2 years before A. i think they never had &don't have a friendship , sexually they are not compatible he stayed with her due to insecurity,fear of being alone then when he felt ready to go she gets preg he resents her allot he feels she knew he wanted out (they were together 5 years before she gets preg)so she did it on purpose , he ended up marrying her ,she pressured him after kid threatened alot so no i don't yeah he lays down on her couch every night , goes places he doesn't want to is turned off by her body hates her personality "cause even if she looked like pam anderson i would still hate her because the way she treats me i don't envy her &some may say I'm a b*tch ,but i think shes a stupid cow ,she has a great guy &she treats him like dirt and I'm not just hearing this from him his father has said he wishes he would just get out of that hell &settle down with me so don't envy her he most likely is staying because of kids ,comfort zone etc good luck
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Yeah really ..i envy that lady everything! OMG she is so lucky! her beloved H works a lot ( late night ,...whole day...I won`t even go explaining on what he really is working ) He spreads STD around. Gets other ladies pregnant. OMG he is really very busy family man! Yes I envy that lady for sure.
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 I know. I often have to hit myself to see reality.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 don`t worry we are on the same boat...Since I am starting to feel better an am in good mood too I propose a great thing. Let us all go to Venice and meet there and have a great party this spring!?!?!?! whopiiii doo .And I am serious!
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 LOL---better yet, let's do it on MM's credit card!
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Right now I'm going through both wanting to see him and feeling used. I think I will see him but not let it go like it has lately which has left me feeling really bad.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 NO no ! I meant : Let`s go there and have fun! let`s start this spring in a different, better way! God knows if we meet there and have real fun maybe we can even find someone special there for us! Ladies I think it`s time we have fun and stop this MM crap thinking! Why not do it in a special way?????
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 LOOk: YOU WERE USED You don`t want to see him....you will get even more used been there trust me
Naive Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by liswil Do any other OW think that MM's wife is so lucky and envy her? I go through that a lot. I guess I am not thinking too clearly though when I think that. Sometimes a friend of mine will make me see how ridiculous that sounds. But then I start thinking it again. Anyone else? What exactly do you envy?
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 What do I envy: I guess that she has someone there for her, someone to give her a nice house, etc... has a family, has someone who is there for her most of the time.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 yes and she is also very lucky bc she is very intimate with a lot of other ladies ( without even knowing that ) bc her beloved H takes care of that part of public relations. ask yourself this: DO I REALLY WANT WITH ALL MY HEART A LIFE LIKE THAT?
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Yeah I know. But I guess I wonder if he'd have cheated if it weren't for me. He seems really freaked out by it and he's the one who stops things from going too far because he can't take the guilt.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 LOOK: mine seemed that way too. They are not freaked out. They have other sort of problems. Let go of him NOW!
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 He's told me he doesn't want to sleep together because it would ruin the friendship and because he has respect for me. He told me that he knew a guy who did that with a friend (I think the guy was single) and it ended the friendship. He's very confused I think about which way to go.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 ok. what about this: 1. HIS WAY LEADS TO HIS WIFES ...(erm ...thingy )ž 2.YOUR WAY : FIND A NICE SINGLE GUY ALL 4 YOU 3. A FRIENDSHIP? well i never do that with friends. I have a lot of male friends and a sex between us was never an issue or a problem. You don`t have sex with friends. That thing is never brought out ,,if you are FRIENDS.
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 I know--and I've never had sex with a friend. Only now we're trying to be platonic friends.
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 heh...you remind me so much of me few months ago. You are in denial. You See the things in a right way but just don`t want to accept them. Ok go through it .Than you will start to see things for what they really are. Good luck
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 What do you mean? What am I in denial about?
MsMree Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 In my case, she will not let go even though she knows about the A - she loves her H, he loves her as the "caretaker" of his children - they don't even live in the same state - What is enviable about this? And she is doing her best to make things work - he is living a lie and does not feel guilty about it - It's funny... this post brings to the surface how i'm starting to feel about my part in this A - not very good (and i'll just leave it at that!)
Author liswil Posted March 8, 2005 Author Posted March 8, 2005 Msmree---mine is living a lie but does feel guilty. But I'm beginning to wonder if he feels less and less guilty the longer it goes on. That's what it seems like to me anyway.
Sad Flower Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Have ya ever heard that new song by fantasia, it's called Truth Is?!~~ That song explains what was between MM and I~ We used to betogether then I dumped him and moved on because he was too childish~ that was 10 yrs ago~ So now that the A is over....I sit thinking..I should of never let him go.. If I never let him go I would be his wife, and I get envious because when I left she came along made him hers and now THEY are husband and wife, BUT then I think how can I be envious, I would of been in her place, being cheated on, lied to, treated like crap, being told to F off while he was seeing me, then I think how silly is it for me to be so envious of what they have, what they have is crap, he is still childish and CRAP!!!!
KissMyTiara Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 I envy her ignorance. She's living in pure bliss.
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