tarda Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 i dated my last guy for almost three years and we were best friends, but i was his first everything. we started dating when we moved away to college. we always talked about being together forever and what we as a couple wanted out of life. When i was about to turn 21, i got so scared my parents divorced when i was young and i don't want that, i was scared that there was no way that he could be the one, even though i was so happy. Towards the end we started arguing over stupid things, but the arguments never lasted and we always made up before we went to bed, because we knew that in the long scheme in didn't matter. I finally decide to break up with him. now i regret this decision daily. we are still wonderful friends, and i have even cried on his shoulder a number of times letting him know how much he means to me and how sorry i am that things had to end. Two weeks after we broke up he met a girl and slept with her the first night. we lived together, and once he met her he stayed with her and i slept alone in what was once our bed. i realized, too late, i didn't want to lose him, but she was having family problems and he was comforting her, he said the thrill of the new relationship was great, and she deserved a chance. After being together for four months they moved in together, they live together, he jumped into a serious relationship, with the first girl, he slept with, or even hung out with. we still talk almost daily, she doesn't know we are friends, he doesn't think she needs to know. We still say i love you, and he comes and visits me, but she has no idea of our friendship. We have said that maybe one day down the road he will come the back, but we need to mature. I feel like i have learned so much about my self in the past five months, all the things that use to annoy me about us i can look at and see how ridiculous i was. i took advantage of what we had, and got annoyed with him when he tried to help. i know he isn't coming back but i miss him so bad. please help me realize he isn't coming back or how i can show him i have matured ? thank you so much for your help because this hurts like hell. i want my baby back so so bad
Merin Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 I'm sorry... He is living with someone else.. he is sleeping with someone else.. it doesn't matter why he chooses to do so, because all the reason in the world doesn't change the facts. I think it's very unfair for him to string you along the way he is and what he's doing behind his gfs back is wrong as well.. Don't be ANYONES plan B... you're better than that. Things didn't work out the first time for various reasons.. he moved on (even if he still tells you he loves you, and he *Might* come back to you one day) again.. fact is, he's with someone else and he isn't willing to do the right thing for her or for you... so yeah he is right some maturing needs to go on.. and that needs to start with him. IF you want to show him that you've matured.. then be mature enough to tell him that you're not going to be his back up plan.. that he either wants to try again with you and let go of the other girl.. or that while you wish him well that you're not down for being hurt over and over with his promises of *One day* Good Luck
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