Ail Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 (edited) I am 16 and there's basically this really pretty girl in my Maths class I fancy. I only started further education about four weeks ago and I have talked/introduced myself to a lot of guys and quite a few girls. She's only in my maths class (sometimes we cross paths inside the building) and I would often find myself trying to cover up the fact I was shy around her by talking confidently in the direction she was standing though I always felt as though I was giving signs away. There were several times where I'd joke with my friends/get a answer wrong and find myself laughing in awkwardness. She joked among a couple of her friends when she wiped out one of my X symbols on the board and redrew it under a different font. After that lesson I decided to be confident when I saw her at the towns bus stop to strike up a friendly conversation. I smiled while I asked her how she was finding Maths and she said it was fine then laughed before looking away at her phone. I told her my name while she laughed again and then I asked what her name was when she responded with the answer & another smile. I said "nice to meet ya, *name*!", she responded again with another big smile/grin while she looked at her phone and quickly walked to sit down a couple of metres away from me. It's my assumption she was just shy. But what do you think? Are there any good ways to get to know or be friends with this type of girl?I consider that I have healthy/broad looks and I like to be friendly. But 3 or 4 weeks seems hardly anything. Edited September 30, 2014 by Ail
tpham18nm Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 She sounds a little shy because she keeps looking at her phone while smiling, maybe as an excuse to get away from the attention. Its strange that she sat a couple of meters away from you, maybe she was uncomfortable? I think if she was comfortable she would of sat next to you instead of running away. I don't think you can be very direct with her, but ease into a friendship instead. Get to know her friends (you can tell a lot about a person thorough their friends) and be genuinely interested in her without trying to weasel yourself into anything more advance then a friendship. Don't become obsessive/to available/creepy, just be yourself and spark up a conversion naturally when the time comes. You can pursue her, but not to hard or obviously. In other words, don't try to hard.
cerridwen Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 (edited) Ok, I like the sound of this. Seems promising. My advice is similar to GotPepsi but I'm chiming in anyway. First! Good on you for being confident! Keep it up but watch for signals that you're being too bold/cocky. Like, maybe she stops smiling at your jokes, avoids any eye contact, or seems to want to keep things short. Dont be discourage if this happens once. Could be a bad day. But if it continues, cut bait. Continue to find opportunities to talk to her but she sounds a bit shy so avoid coming on too strong. I wouldnt become FB friends yet. At this stage, interacting only in-person will set you apart. Dont be another one of Those Guys following her around FB. Be the Cute Maths Class guy instead, who she can only interact with at school. Does she play a sport? Maybe something you can both enjoy on a Saturday at some point? Find this out and what other ACTIVITIES she enjoys. Any drip can take a chick to a movie, be different!! Second! Her going to sit a few feet away isn't necessarily a bad thing. She might have felt overly excited and just wanted to step away That she continued to smile even then is a very positive sign. Stay your course! What you've written bodes well for a positive outcome! Edited October 1, 2014 by cerridwen A friend named Pinky called and in my excitement I hit Submit prematurely.
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