Author broken2828 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 So, a week after she broke up with the first rebound she's on to the second. He's 8 years older than her, and she promised me if we ever broke up she wouldnt date an old man (my first gf did that). Just another promise she has broken. I called her the other day. We talked for 2 and a half hours. The first hour and a half went great. It was like talking to and old friwnd. She was sure to explain she didnt want me to ask for her back and that her rebound was better than me, the things she noticed I got mad about that he didnt. Well, of course he is, he used you for sex for 3 months. Of course your not going to have the same problems with a guy who strings you along as a fwb when you want more that you will with your bf of five years. She also lied about breaking up with the first rebound and dating the second, even though I know thats the case. She told me how she still thought about how I hurt her, like when someone was upset a person they knew didnt visit them in the hospital, it reminded her of how I didnt come see her in the hospital. I did go see her, just not as much as she wanted. They told her at the hospital after the first day she could go home, but she stayed for days and racked up thousands in bills. I came to see her, just not enough I guess. She told me hiw her first rebound saw a picture of us she still had up in the house we shared, and how she still listens to the cd I made for her when we first started dating (?). She recreates all our dates, staying in for pizza and chinese, going to the gun range, going to restaraunts we went to together. Even insisting her rebound sing with her in the car and play in the rain like we did. I dunno, whatever. I love this girl more than anything but it's time to move on. Maybe someday she'll realize couples that arent brand new do have problems and that nobody is perfect.
Author broken2828 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 Naw, man. Id rather talk to her. Appreciate the advice, but I ****ed up when I went NC. I should have kept up a semi friendshi with her, she might have turned to me when her first rebound failed.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Naw, man. Id rather talk to her. Appreciate the advice, but I ****ed up when I went NC. I should have kept up a semi friendshi with her, she might have turned to me when her first rebound failed. This is foolish talk. That never happens. At best you would have gotten one hookup, then her backing the hell off. But yeah, this might be one of the more foolish things written on this site in a while. 1
Author broken2828 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 (edited) I'm not going to get upset about you calling me foolish, because I know you're trying to help me out. I do appreciate it. NC is a valid concept, but it's all about timing and it doesnt apply to every situation. It's just the easiest way to go. Every situation is unique, with it's own special set of circumstances, and call for different reactions. Edited October 9, 2014 by broken2828
Simon Phoenix Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I'm not going to get upset about you calling me foolish, because I know you're trying to help me out. I do appreciate it. NC is a valid concept, but it's all about timing and it doesnt apply to every situation. It's just the easiest way to go. And the odds of your situation being that unique snowflake that bucks the trend are remote. But whatever, maybe you have to slam your forehead into a brick wall 17,000 times before you realize that it's not the best way to knock it down. Best of luck.
Million.to.1 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 NC is a valid concept, but it's all about timing and it doesnt apply to every situation. It's just the easiest way to go. Every situation is unique, with it's own special set of circumstances, and call for different reactions. .... only because you are using NC to "get your ex back". that's not what it's for dude. Everyone thinks their situation is special ....and you think your connection with your ex is something special that we don't understand. It's not and we do, because we all feel that way after a break-up we didn't choose. If you don't want to be sitting around, single, listening to your ex talk about her latest squeeze in a year's time, then NC is your best way. If you are ever going to reconnect with your ex and it work out, which is unlikely, then I can tell you from experience that it will be years later down the track after you've both had other significant relationships. Stick to NC if you actually want to move forward with your life... otherwise, happy posting about your ex and your pain.
strong-hearted Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I know it's hard and I know how bad it hurts, we all know that's why we're here to help each other with advice. in my own experience I have not had any contact with my ex in two months yeah I love him I am in love with him above all but hey at the end of the day it was their decision to leave just walk away, we can't sit here and watch them how they enjoy their new lives screwing god know who, that's just torture! if they can live their lives happy like nothing happened then why can't we?? Yeah it's hard trust me I know, I hung out with a friend on Monday, it was going ok until he kissed me and I just stated thinking about my ex and I was like gosh how do people make it look so easy, it's freaken hard to move on hang out with a friend (not as a couple) let alone a rebound, I just felt like I cheated on my ex and idk why can anyone help me understand or has anyone felt that way?
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