yellow_sun Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I met a man last weekend visiting from out of town and had a very short, very intense fling with him. We actually first "met" on Tinder and decided to meet at a party I was going to. I was with friends, he brought his friends, everyone got along great. No sex on the first date, just lots of kissing. After that night, we spent the next 5 days/nights together walking around town, going out to eat, and spending a lot of time in bed... We both had a great time, even though I was a bit wary sometimes. I've never received so much attention or so many compliments from anyone before in my life. He made me feel beautiful, but I was still kind of suspicious. I mean, it's not normal for guys to dish out as many compliments as he was giving me, right? And he couldn't keep his eyes off of me. I know I'm pretty, but I'm not perfect, and he would not stop telling me how beautiful I am or how beautiful my eyes are, or how smart I am, etc. It made me really, really shy. It really felt like he was falling in love with me, and that made me a bit uncomfortable, because that doesn't happen, does it? Anyway, he just got out of a relationship a couple months ago, and he hasn't seen anyone besides me since then, so he's clearly on the rebound... But I can't stop thinking about him now. I also got out of a relationship relatively recently and am not ready to be someone's girlfriend again just yet, but... I miss him and, if I'm going to be honest here, the sex. He's actually from the city I live in, but has been living about 450 miles away for the past couple of years, and he's thinking about moving back... But he also said he'd get in touch if he's ever visiting again. I've never been in a situation like this before. I'd like to keep in touch with him casually, but I'm afraid to write him, for two reasons: I don't want a long distance relationship, or any serious relationship; and I'm afraid he maybe played me and doesn't actually care and I'll come across as clingy or desperate when in fact I'm not. Thoughts?
Toodaloo Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 "We will always have Paris"... Smile when you think of him but move on. 2
Author yellow_sun Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Haha, oh don't make me think of a scene like that when I'm in this state!
Toodaloo Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Haha, oh don't make me think of a scene like that when I'm in this state! Sorry - how about "Tomorrow is another day" Nah that sucks too even if Rhet is hot! The man is just timeless... Big sigh Ermmm.... Oh... I know... "Right hand Clive" Better?
Zippy2000 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 You`re living a dream with "what could have been". Nothing worng with chasing a dream but tread carefully. I hope you dont get hurt.
Dallers Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I met a man last weekend visiting from out of town and had a very short, very intense fling with him. We actually first "met" on Tinder and decided to meet at a party I was going to. I was with friends, he brought his friends, everyone got along great. No sex on the first date, just lots of kissing. After that night, we spent the next 5 days/nights together walking around town, going out to eat, and spending a lot of time in bed... We both had a great time, even though I was a bit wary sometimes. I've never received so much attention or so many compliments from anyone before in my life. He made me feel beautiful, but I was still kind of suspicious. I mean, it's not normal for guys to dish out as many compliments as he was giving me, right? And he couldn't keep his eyes off of me. I know I'm pretty, but I'm not perfect, and he would not stop telling me how beautiful I am or how beautiful my eyes are, or how smart I am, etc. It made me really, really shy. It really felt like he was falling in love with me, and that made me a bit uncomfortable, because that doesn't happen, does it? Anyway, he just got out of a relationship a couple months ago, and he hasn't seen anyone besides me since then, so he's clearly on the rebound... But I can't stop thinking about him now. I also got out of a relationship relatively recently and am not ready to be someone's girlfriend again just yet, but... I miss him and, if I'm going to be honest here, the sex. He's actually from the city I live in, but has been living about 450 miles away for the past couple of years, and he's thinking about moving back... But he also said he'd get in touch if he's ever visiting again. I've never been in a situation like this before. I'd like to keep in touch with him casually, but I'm afraid to write him, for two reasons: I don't want a long distance relationship, or any serious relationship; and I'm afraid he maybe played me and doesn't actually care and I'll come across as clingy or desperate when in fact I'm not. Thoughts? Going through a similar situation right now with a girl. Its brilliant. It is strange and those feelings will eventually get you down to the point that you have to break it off as they always win but while it is good enjoy it. In a casual / FB situation there is no right or wrong and no who should message first you both use each other for company and just as you say the sex that you enjoy. He may have just been looking for one thing but what is to say that he does not want it again? It is up to you if you want the same or more. If you do not want a relationship right now then message him, why not! Life is too short. But be aware those feelings, always get you in the end. 1
Author yellow_sun Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Did I mention he left a week ago? Hence me missing him and wanting to contact him... I've been in a long distance relationship before, and I don't want that again. He said he's been coming back here every 5-6 weeks to visit friends and family, but who knows. I just think it might be nice to chat every once in a while. I'm planning on seeing other guys, so I shouldn't have trouble moving on or not getting too attached.
Toodaloo Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Did I mention he left a week ago? Hence me missing him and wanting to contact him... I've been in a long distance relationship before, and I don't want that again. He said he's been coming back here every 5-6 weeks to visit friends and family, but who knows. I just think it might be nice to chat every once in a while. I'm planning on seeing other guys, so I shouldn't have trouble moving on or not getting too attached. Darn and I was just getting going on the quotes... "I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair, gonna wash that man right out of my hair..."
Author yellow_sun Posted October 1, 2014 Author Posted October 1, 2014 "I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair, gonna wash that man right out of my hair..." I've been reading some other threads around here, and I understand it sometimes, but why is the solution usually "just move on"? I mean, we both liked each other a lot and had a great time, the only problem being circumstances, and I'm supposed to just say "oh well, it wasn't meant to be"? What's wrong with moving on (seeing other men casually) while keeping in touch with him?
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