Jack26 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Hi, I'm 25 and she is 28. I know this girl from last 1year, but I never used to talk much apart from work related. But i saw her crying couple of times. One day she explained her situation that she is struggling from a bad breakup and used to cry a lot Past relation(2yrs): I can say both were serious about their relationship coz they have spoke with their parents about their marriage but girls parents are against to it. so she started fighting with parents for this boy. But unfortunately after a while, he is away on work (9months) but when he returned back. he felt like she ditched and cheated him when he is away as he came across few things like messages and calls from friends. After few fights, boy left her completely alone. he stopped replying to her texts/calls Looking at her in that situation. I thought of helping her out. So i've started giving attention to her and used to take her out on weekends and used to spend time with her and somehow my effort to make her feel happy about her life succeeded and i'm happy too, as every minute i spend with her gives me immense pleasure. After a while we became very close and tight, we loved each other so much and had sex couple of times too. She even used to surprise me with some expensive gifts and used to take care and pamper me like a mother. I've completely fallen for her and love her so much. Even she says she loves me but she can't have me as she cannot dare to go back to her parents and friends saying "i'm now in love with other Man". She is scared that she'll be losing all the credibility among parents and friends. I tried to convince her and promised that i'll make things normal like before. but she strictly says she can't and decided to move on with her parents and moreover she says we can be like friends forever. I thought its easy to move on. But once i realized that she'll be away soon. I went into depression which i couldn't bare and has become weak and breaking down day by day. Even though we talk and meet each other now but atleast once, we start crying looking at each other. Not sure how to deal with this situation. What is that really bothering her ???
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 She didnt just leave you because she thinks her parents will disaprove. She left you for something else. The parents are just the crutch that she used
Author Jack26 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Is she still waiting for her Ex to come back?? I dont have a clue at this point !! nothing is striking my mind. Is it a good idea to ask her directly !!
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 It doesn't matter what the reason is. She doesn't want to be with you. Cut the cord on this and don't fall for the "friends" crap. You were the rebound guy from the word "go", so all you can do now is to try to rebuild from this. Go out and date other women. I'd seriously cut the contact with this girl, and trust me, she's used to you being her support system, so she WILL come hard at you. But for YOUR sake, you need to say good-bye to that chapter of your life.
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