Kugle Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I've been dating this girl for 4 months. I'm 26 and she's 21. It really went well and came to a stage where a relationship was inevitable. We kissed all the time, called each other honey/darling, had sex all the time, saw each other 3 times a week, said we loved and was in love with eachother. However when the relationship was about to go official she got cold feet, as she was afraid of getting hurt. She told me she had got so hurt and abandoned in her previous relationships and in relation to her dad. So we kinda broke it there and did'nt have contact for a few days. A few days later she began to snapchat me ALOT again. More than when we was dating even. In the start i did not respond, but as i really like her i started responding. We have begun talking again as well. So after a week of constant snapchatting + texting i asked if she wanted to take a walk in a newly opened park. And she went "i'm not sure i'ts a good idea" and "i think it will confuse us more than do us good"..... However she still snapchats 10-20 times a day...... So what the heck is she up to. If she dosnt want to get confused why would she contact me several times during the day? Thanks in advance !
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Its her way of telling you that you are too emotional, and youre too much of a girl - for her. She wants to be the only girl in the relationship, and she doesnt want to go out with you, then you have an emotional breakdown while youre with her. See other women
Emilia Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I don't know where the previous poster got the 'too much of a girl' idea from This girl is bad news OP, she doesn't know what she wants. Block her and move on. She is far too much into little games and is insecure.
Supernatural Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Ya that too much of a girl comment was weird. And seems very inaccurate. I would just chalk this girl up to a game player. Likes having your attention. She sounds like damaged goods and a headache. Been there. Done that. Move on, don't waste anymore time. When a girl texts but doesn't want to meet and share something real... There is literally no point. Life is meant to be lived. Not talked about.
Supernatural Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Ya that too much of a girl comment was weird. And seems very inaccurate. I would just chalk this girl up to a game player. Likes having your attention. She sounds like damaged goods and a headache. Been there. Done that. Move on, don't waste anymore time. When a girl texts but doesn't want to meet and share something real... There is literally no point. Life is meant to be lived. Not talked about.
Zippy2000 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 She wants nothing more than "friendship". I ve been here before. met a girl and like your situation she gotcold feet but she STILL kept messaging mean and GUESS WHAT? After a year of constant messaging she met another man and I got dropped. Its best if you reduce or stop your communication with her. She`s lapping up the attention. I say STOP making her feel important.
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 She just wants your attention and nothing more. The next time she texts you, reply with "Who is this?" and then don't reply anymore.
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Play a little game with her. Tell her you miss her badly and thinking of her all of the time, then tell her she must only send you 1 message a day because you are very busy. Then respond to just 1 message and ignore the rest 1
Dallers Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Play a little game with her. Tell her you miss her badly and thinking of her all of the time, then tell her she must only send you 1 message a day because you are very busy. Then respond to just 1 message and ignore the rest Above - Play the game. You gave too much away and now she has too much control. That is not sexy. You need to regain the control back. I am seeing a girl at the moment very similar it is casual and only going to be casual but we act just like boyfriend and girlfriend and do everything that you would apart from date. Sounds like that girl wants the same not to be tied to you but have fun. Not surprising at 21. You are not too much of a girl as mentioned above but you are not showing your value as a man. Girls want what they cannot have and if she is young she has plenty of choice. You need to show her that you are amazing and make her miss you. Get her attention, make her realise what she is missing then ignore her. Play the game or move on as this won't lead to anything serious.
Fondue Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 (edited) Not sure how you guys go from "being in love," or some bull**** like that and then she just... Drops you. Leave her. This girl is clearly unstable. Tell her why. Tell her that her insecurity (or whatever it is) caused this. But don't dare go back to her. SHe will try to suck you in and guilt trip you. Don't let her get a hold of you. Go no contact. She needs to understand that this isn't behavior that's rewarded. Maybe in the future, she will not do this to another person. EDIT: I don't know why people are suggesting you start playing games. Game playing is for children. Adults are straight forward and are not pushovers. Be an adult. Edited September 30, 2014 by Fondue
Author Kugle Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Through with the bull****! Going NC again and wont break it despite her contact. Cheers! 1
Assasda Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 Its her way of telling you that you are too emotional, and youre too much of a girl - for her. She wants to be the only girl in the relationship, and she doesnt want to go out with you, then you have an emotional breakdown while youre with her. See other women Pretty sure this is it . Going No Contact is good, but I dont think its necessary. If you can be less emotional, she'll be available
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