Ashley S Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone! You all are so helpful, and I would like to post again. Sorry if it's the wrong category, but if a lot of you read my posts, well the latest one was about Adam, how he was kinda angry with me. Well we settled that and all, but honestly it has been an ongoing emotional battle with Adam. Adam is a player, no doubt. He would give me mixed signals all the time and he would tell me how much he likes and loves me, and I heard different responses from my friends and from people on this forum, some people said it was me and I never gave him a chance, and that it's my fault, then other people said it was his fault. So it's hard to say. Well he is back with his ex or whatever, and it bothers me because I always liked him and felt like he was my best friend, but I know I have to let him go because it isn't going to work. I can't keep torturing myself with him. He leads me on. He'll ask me weird future questions and joke about marrying me, stuff like that makes me take it at heart, and it bothers me because he'll pull away and I have no idea if it's me or him. So why is it hard for me to let go? What is wrong with me? I don't even find him physically attractive and I know he's no good for me so why am I holding on? And how do I let go completely. This is unhealthy turmoil for me. I don't understand that I realize he's a douchebag, piece of ****, but I still have a care and a attraction towards him? I just don't understand why it's hard for me to let go! Even though I looked at him as a best friend, I still knew what he was about. Is it an ego thing? Insecurity? Maybe someone here can enlighten me because you all are mature and smart and I like to hear responses from people on here. Thank you. Xoxo Edited September 30, 2014 by Ashley S
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 You call your best friends douchbags. What a friend. BYW women dont have to be physically attracted to guys to like them. Women are more attracted to personality, humor, and style. I dont know the backstory that you have with this dude. But the forum is packed with No Contact info. Try doing that 1
Author Ashley S Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 You call your best friends douchbags. What a friend. BYW women dont have to be physically attracted to guys to like them. Women are more attracted to personality, humor, and style. I dont know the backstory that you have with this dude. But the forum is packed with No Contact info. Try doing that I try doing that Assasda...unfortunately it always fails for me. I will say to myself all the time "I won't pick up his phone calls or talk to him" Yet when he calls my phone I pick up, like and idiot that I am. Then I say "When I see him I will give him the cold shoulder and be cold" Nope! I am nice and talkative so again I failed. I don't understand why I do this, and I am angry at myself, because I can't let go. And he's just a crush! I dated and actually had sex with other guys and I was never hung on them like I am with Adam. I never even had sex with Adam and I am clinging to him. Makes me feel even more weird, and angry, because there is no sex involved so I don't understand why it wouldn't be hard to rid him of my life?
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Whoa whoa whoa... don't try to shine the light on him like that. I read your other thread. He tried getting with you, you shut him down... now you call him a player and you want him because he is with someone else. Let's not post a one-sided thread like this. You know better than that. And you can't get "rid of him" because now you "can't have him". It's as simple as that.
Author Ashley S Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Whoa whoa whoa... don't try to shine the light on him like that. I read your other thread. He tried getting with you, you shut him down... now you call him a player and you want him because he is with someone else. Let's not post a one-sided thread like this. You know better than that. And you can't get "rid of him" because now you "can't have him". It's as simple as that. Well the reasons why I didn't get with him is because he is known for being a player. I was protecting myself and I didn't want to admit that I liked him, because I know deep down inside he's no good for me. I am not shedding any kind of negative light on him, I am just saying how it's weird that I can't get over him and that I can't rid him of my life. Also when he was trying to go out with me he was dating other girls, and the one it seemed he was in a relationship with. So I was protecting myself, I wasn't acting like a prissy bitch that was like "Oh this guy likes me and I like the attention, I'll just blow him off! Hahaha!" No! I would've gone out with him, but he's not a good guy to go out with and I knew that and that is why I held back, not because I got off on the fact that he liked me and I never gave in.
Noproblem Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Letting go takes time, and efforts It's never easy
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