SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 So I met a guy on OLD and we went on 2 dates this week. We've been texting for a month now, and he hasn't logged back into the dating site since. The last guy I dated DID even after sleeping together and he was definitely a smooth talker and insincere so I made sure to avoid that this time. The current guy seems nervous, like shaking which was kind of sweet and luckily he was able to carry on conversation without awkward gaps. The first date he paid, opened the first door, walked me to my car and kissed me. Came at me with an open mouth, ready to jab me with his tongue..... But he's sweet and I am physically attracted to him, although I'm not sure how much chemistry I felt. We went on date two yesterday..ended with more awkward kissing...I tried to give him subtle cues and redirect his style which he adjusted at times. He was definitely worked up and I feel like he expected sex. Which I kept moving his hands haha...I already made the mistake of being used and disrespected by the last guy. I almost wonder how much experience he has or if he's always this awkward. He texts me every day, but it's pretty basic small talk stuff. He opened up to me a little bit yesterday in person, but up until this point I felt like I didn't know much about him. I'm so used to guys who are always saying they miss me, and trying to connect with me on an emotional level...although those guys turn out to be players. I feel like he's expecting the same thing and not even trying to butter me up, but maybe I'm being paranoid. I do like him, and it feels pretty natural to be with him.
Author SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I forgot to mention that he didn't open his car door for me yesterday just said "it's unlocked" and when we were walking was kind of in front of me instead of next to me in between me and the street. Certainly not a deal breaker, but made me go hmm...I guess I'm just used to more chivalrous men.
sm2281 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 So I met a guy on OLD and we went on 2 dates this week. We've been texting for a month now, and he hasn't logged back into the dating site since. The last guy I dated DID even after sleeping together and he was definitely a smooth talker and insincere so I made sure to avoid that this time. The current guy seems nervous, like shaking which was kind of sweet and luckily he was able to carry on conversation without awkward gaps. The first date he paid, opened the first door, walked me to my car and kissed me. Came at me with an open mouth, ready to jab me with his tongue..... But he's sweet and I am physically attracted to him, although I'm not sure how much chemistry I felt. We went on date two yesterday..ended with more awkward kissing...I tried to give him subtle cues and redirect his style which he adjusted at times. He was definitely worked up and I feel like he expected sex. Which I kept moving his hands haha...I already made the mistake of being used and disrespected by the last guy. I almost wonder how much experience he has or if he's always this awkward. He texts me every day, but it's pretty basic small talk stuff. He opened up to me a little bit yesterday in person, but up until this point I felt like I didn't know much about him. I'm so used to guys who are always saying they miss me, and trying to connect with me on an emotional level...although those guys turn out to be players. I feel like he's expecting the same thing and not even trying to butter me up, but maybe I'm being paranoid. I do like him, and it feels pretty natural to be with him. things can be awkward for alot of reasons first starting off. if you like him, give it time and patience, a little understanding. You will get comfortable as you get closer and get more comfortable with eachother. 1
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 hmmmm.... You put that little door thing and that little walking infront of you in your memory back. You must have some princess chip on your shoulder New guy sounds normal BTW I'm very sorry about the other guy using you and disrespecting you. Sexual assault happens so much. And its a serious thing when a guy puts unwanted physical advances on a woman. What happened to that guy? I hope you told him to hit the bricks after he tried. 1
Author SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I don't have a princess chip on my shoulder, I'm just trying to be more aware, so it's something I made note of. I am new to dating again, so after the last train wreck I feel like I'm keeping a mental tally.
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I don't have a princess chip on my shoulder, I'm just trying to be more aware, so it's something I made note of. I am new to dating again, so after the last train wreck I feel like I'm keeping a mental tally. I really wanted to know whatever happened with the guy that "used and disrespected" you.
Author SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I really wanted to know whatever happened with the guy that "used and disrespected" you. We no longer speak.
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 We no longer speak. Oh, I know that. I wanted to know what happened AFTER he "used and disrespected" you. How did it all end.
Author SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I ended things..and then he tried cat fishing me. A real winner, that one.
Emilia Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 It's good that you aren't going for the smooth talkers anymore. Even if it doesn't work out with this guy, a bit of patience will show you that some men need a little bit of time. It sometimes pays off very well. Sometimes it doesn't.
Author SparklingandBroken Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 It's good that you aren't going for the smooth talkers anymore. Even if it doesn't work out with this guy, a bit of patience will show you that some men need a little bit of time. It sometimes pays off very well. Sometimes it doesn't. Good point. Thanks!
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