frozengirl Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I went back and re-read all of the chats that this guy and I had and really enjoyed revisiting those moments and decided to write up some questions from some of those conversations. Now that I have asked this guy those questions he isn't responding even though they are legit questions. I don't understand why he isn't answering them but he is not. Now it makes me think should I even ask him other questions or will I not receive an answer to those even? Him and I have gone on 4 dates and chat everyday so asking questions back and forth is a regular for us but lately I've noticed this happening, plus our iPhone's say who's "Read" the message so I don't see why he can read the message and not reply to it.
d0nnivain Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Sending somebody a list of written Qs you expect them to answer is obnoxious. This isn't a job interview and you are not a reporter writing a story. Having Qs to ask to get to know somebody & to keep the conversation flowing is a marvelous idea buy you need to ask them, using your voice, when you are actually speaking to the other person via the telephone (not text) or in person. It's called having a conversation. Try it. It's very enjoyable. Your way is so cold & one sided. I wouldn't answer you either in that written format. 1
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I went back and re-read all of the chats that this guy and I had and really enjoyed revisiting those moments and decided to write up some questions from some of those conversations. Now that I have asked this guy those questions he isn't responding even though they are legit questions. I don't understand why he isn't answering them but he is not. Now it makes me think should I even ask him other questions or will I not receive an answer to those even? Him and I have gone on 4 dates and chat everyday so asking questions back and forth is a regular for us but lately I've noticed this happening, plus our iPhone's say who's "Read" the message so I don't see why he can read the message and not reply to it. Are they important Q's or are they just a bunch of what ever to fill in the blanks. He may be saving the answers for a face to face if they are important. My SM will wait on important ones as she tends not to think about things in general. Likes to allow things to go as they go so to speak. As she sees no point into verifying what is obvious to her. Are all your Q's not being answered??? I never have that, but depending on how many, some may be left out by how much is being written.
Author frozengirl Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 A lot of the questions were just from previous conversations except they were brief answers, this time he answered them all with a much longer explanation so that made more sense. And we chat via text he is too shy to chat over the phone. So I don't mind texting. And getting to know someone you need to ask each other questions.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 A lot of the questions were just from previous conversations except they were brief answers, this time he answered them all with a much longer explanation so that made more sense. And we chat via text he is too shy to chat over the phone. So I don't mind texting. And getting to know someone you need to ask each other questions. Ah, shy! OK.. I know that, as I am one myself. I think face to face is easier than phone. Though I am not that way, just feel that way because he needs to see you as he tries to show his feelings. Sometimes just being against him and having talk is better at getting questions answered. I know it may feel a bit personal or too close. But shy peeps are not scared of affection, they are scared to feel their feelings are alone. I am sure he is not use to his feelings and is getting a grip so to speak. I too will make better explanations by voice clips to send. At times my words don't have what I feel, and only makes more questions. It takes getting use to making voice clips but once that is tackled he will find a new voice. You'll see him come out of his shell. You can do wee voice clips to start with. Just simple stuff to laugh about or just say I miss you. After time the wee clips become longer and more meaningful. I hope what I shared has some help in allowing him to open up more for you. As not many here have shy men in their relationships. I think he is probably the closest to having a diamond in the ruff as you'll ever get. It is up to you on making him shine. Allow time to open doors. A year can be all the difference. But then again, a year can seem like a month.
cif Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Exchanging questions as an ice breaker when BOTH people have agreed to answer is one thing. Sending a list is weird. 1
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