Apaige Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I did the unthinkable tonight; I drove by his house, and another woman was leaving!! The same woman I suspected something weird going on. Two years....two friggen years of my life, and he's with another woman. Funny thing is, the same car was parked in front of his house this past Friday night, the night that he was going out with "the guys" he lied to me...he could have at least broken up with me before dating another woman. And why makes things worse, he came to me the next night!! Well I stooped to such an immature level, I in iced her in Facebook, and told her what a fool she was, and they we were together just the other night! Ugh!! I am so hurt, and so made at myself for even contacting her! He didn't know what to say after I caught him. She was leaving his house, and he walked away from her car. I followed him, and confronted him, he didn't know what to say. He said sorry!! Are you kidding me?! Sorry?!?! I want specifics!! Then as if it makes things any better he told me later in a phone convo, that she won't take his calls!! OMG!! As if I friggen care. Further more, why does he even care to call her?! He said he wanted to apologize to her!!! OMG!!! I am at a loss for words!!
MissBee Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I'm sorry, I'm sure this is all quite shocking and horrible and many of us have done things we regret when faced with such shock. You haven't been having a good run with this guy from several of your threads and the writing was on the wall that he was not in love with you or wholeheartedly invested.... This SUCKS but you know what, there is a silver lining: no more guessing and wasting time with him. You know the truth and can kick him to the curb and move on. I know it is not as easy as it sounds but I'd definitely take this time to grieve the relationship and what you THOUGHT it was and begin moving forward. Have any friends for support? 1
Author Apaige Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I'm sorry, I'm sure this is all quite shocking and horrible and many of us have done things we regret when faced with such shock. You haven't been having a good run with this guy from several of your threads and the writing was on the wall that he was not in love with you or wholeheartedly invested.... This SUCKS but you know what, there is a silver lining: no more guessing and wasting time with him. You know the truth and can kick him to the curb and move on. I know it is not as easy as it sounds but I'd definitely take this time to grieve the relationship and what you THOUGHT it was and begin moving forward. Have any friends for support? I do just don't know if I have the nerve to discuss this with them at the moment. I told my sister and all she could do was tell me all the things he didn't do for me!! Sad part is, I wish he was right here laying next to me. I really loved him!! I have no clue how I will get up and go to work tomorrow. It's sad that I am sitting here trying to figure out how to call out! I am just so disgusted, hurt, sad!! Just so confused!! I didn't think he could do this to me knowing that my ex husband cheated on me!!
kjohn Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I know that you are hurting and very confused right now, but PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE…..I am begging you to find the courage to end this relationship right now. Walk away and don't look back no matter what story he tells you. I know you feel like you have 2 years "invested" and maybe he will be remorseful and things will get better, but trust me when I tell you they won't. I'm not necessarily saying that he would cheat again, but what I am saying is that you will drive yourself absolutely crazy not trusting him and that, in and of itself, will ruin any potential future this relationship might have. You deserve better!!!!!! You deserve to be with a man who is 100% wholeheartedly invested in YOU. You deserve a man who would never even dream of lying to you, cheating on you or doing anything behind your back. End this relationship now and find a man with morals and integrity, which this man obviously does not have. I am speaking from experience here. Deciding to stay in a relationship with somebody that has hurt and betrayed you and who you know in heart you cannot trust, is not worth it. There are other fish in the sea. Better fish. Don't waste another second with this jerk. Please!! If I had to do over again, I would have walked away as soon as I walked into that restaurant and saw him sitting there having dinner with his ex girlfriend when he told me he was going out of town for work. Instead I bought into his story of how it was all innocent and I stayed. I wasted several years of my life being a person I didn't care to be….all because I was trying to convince myself that I trusted him when I knew in my heart that I didn't. Learn from my mistake. Walk away and find someone better. You deserve it. 4
No Limit Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Kick him to the curb, cut all ties. Take time to heal and find someone better. As another user posted already, you've had trouble with this guy for a while longer; don't let him fool you into believing that you are important to him (hate myself for typing that out to a nice person like you, but please, you can do better than this!). 2
dragon_fly_7 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Kick him out of your life and don't let his apologies fooled you. If you take him back you would be settling for less. You don't want that type of man in your life.
preraph Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Well, at least now you know. He wanted to get his mother bee back in the hive to leave himself freer to screw around. I don't think you should even want to discuss it. You have to find some way to coparent with this liar, but I think the key here is going to be to just adhere to the custody agreement with a minimum of contact.
Author Apaige Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Well, at least now you know. He wanted to get his mother bee back in the hive to leave himself freer to screw around. I don't think you should even want to discuss it. You have to find some way to coparent with this liar, but I think the key here is going to be to just adhere to the custody agreement with a minimum of contact. Thank you, this is not even my ex husband....this is the guy that I started dating after my separation from my ex husband. I have been with him for two years now. And for the last year, we have just been off...Iknew something was up, just not sure how long this was going on for.
ComingInHot Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Oh wow. My own heart is beating 1000 bpm's for you. I am so so incredibly angry and upset right next to you!! What an incredible DOUCHE!! Time to go GHOST Honey. Disappear from him. I think if there is a chance he wants to work it out with you (and you are willing to accept/please don't*) then he has to work to get to you. ...Once again, proof I should order a special catalog and NEVER re-join dating, I can hardly read Apaige without wanting to cry with her* 1
preraph Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Thank you, this is not even my ex husband....this is the guy that I started dating after my separation from my ex husband. I have been with him for two years now. And for the last year, we have just been off...Iknew something was up, just not sure how long this was going on for. Oh, great. Just what you need right now, as if ending a marriage wasn't enough to cope with and now you've got a cheater. Well, all I can say is truly sorry and it's always better to find out sooner than later so it's less of your life wasted. I'm glad you did get out there and date though, just sorry it turned to crap for you. Don't let it get you down. Consider that you dodged a bullet before anything official happened. 1
quidproquo89 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I did the unthinkable tonight; I drove by his house, and another woman was leaving!! The same woman I suspected something weird going on. Two years....two friggen years of my life, and he's with another woman. Funny thing is, the same car was parked in front of his house this past Friday night, the night that he was going out with "the guys" he lied to me...he could have at least broken up with me before dating another woman. And why makes things worse, he came to me the next night!! Well I stooped to such an immature level, I in iced her in Facebook, and told her what a fool she was, and they we were together just the other night! Ugh!! I am so hurt, and so made at myself for even contacting her! He didn't know what to say after I caught him. She was leaving his house, and he walked away from her car. I followed him, and confronted him, he didn't know what to say. He said sorry!! Are you kidding me?! Sorry?!?! I want specifics!! Then as if it makes things any better he told me later in a phone convo, that she won't take his calls!! OMG!! As if I friggen care. Further more, why does he even care to call her?! He said he wanted to apologize to her!!! OMG!!! I am at a loss for words!! that's awful, sorry to hear what's happened. Now you've found out his true colours you can drop him. Never speak to him again. It may take some time but you will find someone much better, someone you deserve. **** him! He doesn't deserve you .
Author Apaige Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Oh wow. My own heart is beating 1000 bpm's for you. I am so so incredibly angry and upset right next to you!! What an incredible DOUCHE!! Time to go GHOST Honey. Disappear from him. I think if there is a chance he wants to work it out with you (and you are willing to accept/please don't*) then he has to work to get to you. ...Once again, proof I should order a special catalog and NEVER re-join dating, I can hardly read Apaige without wanting to cry with her* Trust me, I will NOT date again for a real long time!! Everyone says, don't date, fix yourself first!! Just so pissed that we met by accident, I kept the guard up until I thought I was safe! I wasn't!! I don't recommend dating right. After a divorce!! 1
quidproquo89 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I do just don't know if I have the nerve to discuss this with them at the moment. I told my sister and all she could do was tell me all the things he didn't do for me!! Sad part is, I wish he was right here laying next to me. I really loved him!! I have no clue how I will get up and go to work tomorrow. It's sad that I am sitting here trying to figure out how to call out! I am just so disgusted, hurt, sad!! Just so confused!! I didn't think he could do this to me knowing that my ex husband cheated on me!! can you find and channel that strong determination to get through the day tomorrow. The thoughts of that guy is a bastard and I will not give him any more of my time!
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