cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 My history: divorced in 07. Fell head over heals in 09. She cheated with my own co worker. No relationship since. Met a girl through online who I think is amazing. Question is. I have a job that is not intense. In fact, I'm your typical government waste of tax payer money. First date lasted 3 hours. I see her about once a week. Second week in after numerous texts about how much she was into me we had sex. Since then she has been different. She doesn't flirt. She doesnt say the things she did after the first date. We are supposed to meet tomorrow. She lives on the opposite side of town so typically what I did (with her permission) was hit the gym shower and change at her place and go out. Well tonight she has suddenly become busy and only wants to meet for dinner. I'm just confused. I don't know if I should just not contact her or what. I'd put a ring on her finger if it worked out. But I'm not about to second guess history. Any advice would be helpful.
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Cancel the dinner and reschedule for another night. See what happens.
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Don't understand your problem. She want dinner meet. So you dinner meet her and see if anything is up.
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Well we are supposed to meet tomorrow. So I asked if she has a place in mind and her response was "a few". So I said care to share because I'd hate to show up to a place you WERENT thinking of. And she seriously just wrote : "I will let you know soon :)". **** this.
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 I literally just typed out tell you what I'll cancel now so that you don't have to make up any excuses tomorrow. But I haven't sent it. I freaking hate this crap.
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 She is going to flake on you. Cancel the dinner. 1
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 How do I cancel without looking like an A hole?
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Ok man, you are way too fast. You went from start to cancel in like 2 seconds. Are you done with her now then?
ThorntonMelon Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 The biggest problem I see in these posts is "I'd put a ring on her finger if it worked out". You've been dating for like what, a few weeks. That mindset will kill you.
OwMyEyeball Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Instead of getting yourself caught up in your own head games why didn't you just name a place and time yourself?
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 No. I've been dating for 7 years. I know when someone is that "type" for me. Because she had told me it was her turn to take me out because we need some alone time ( her middle daughter lives with her with two babies). So now all the sudden she is coy and playing some game. I don't get it nand yeah I can be done with someone in a snap of the fingers. The luxury of being 43 and dating till you want to freaking puke.
cif Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 She sounds passive. Cancel and wait for her to contact you. Date others.
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Looks to me you are rushing that woman to the point she's annoyed. You need to calm down and give her time.
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 So cancel how without looking like an a$$?
travelbug1996 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Maybe the sex wasn't good for her. How was it?
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 So cancel how without looking like an a$$? wtf man, she's your woman. you decided that yourself and consider the potential consequences. Are you really dumping her just like that ?
heartshaped Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 So cancel how without looking like an a$$? I wouldn't cancel. If she flakes, that will be definitive of how she feels. Sounds like the sex changed things though. This may not be salvageable.
Author cdt76 Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Once sex screws up her mind nothing is salvageable. And I rang her bell several times so the sex was ok.
dumbass2 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Once sex screws up her mind nothing is salvageable. And I rang her bell several times so the sex was ok. Wait and see what she does. Don't cancel. you said you are 43 and have experience. If you like this woman and just a few dates in, why are you having sex with her that quickly? If you're looking for just a good time, then treat it as such. You say you'd put a ring on her finger. Really? After a few weeks and you are having these kind of thoughts about her? You really just need to relax, chill out and see what happens. If she flakes, then be done with it and don't contact her again. Only 2 weeks in, nothing can possibly be lost in that amount of time. You don't even really know her. 1
Diezel Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I'd rather cancel on my own terms than have her flake on me. It's a waste of time and expectation. I don't know where LoneIsland is getting the "she is your woman", because apparently she isn't getting the same vibe. I do have to admit, there is quite the passiveness to you. Why didn't YOU name a time and place? And never, ever again go with the "I'd put a ring on her finger" after just two/three dates. That's impossible to gauge.
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