ashleysv Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Back story... my boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a month now (Wednesday will be our 1 month). I am feeling immensely overwhelmed with his financial problems. As horrible as that sounds, I know. Friday put things into perspective for me when I was going to stay over and his landlord kicked him out and changed the passcode on his house because he is behind on his rent. I was literally in tears that evening because I had no way home at 1 am. I almost broke up with him then, as I told him I just couldn't deal with what he had going on and he somehow convinced me otherwise. We have yet to go on a real date and we've been dating almost a month. A month and no real date? what? We hang out and spend time together. We've gone to blue jays games (he pays for the tickets) and then I always end up having to pay for food because he is BROKE. I really care about him and when I'm with him most of the time we have a good time! I just have these feelings in my head where I think I should be with a guy who puts a little more effort into dating me. Don't get me wrong - he tells me his feelings all the time, more than I even tell him cause I think it's too fast - but his financial problems are overwhelming me and I don't know if it'll ever change. I'm hoping it does... I'd just like some opinions/advice on this situation. Am I NUTS???
LoneIsland Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 You don't even really know him. I see no reason why you have to carry his problems. Its easier to dump him now than later.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Why is he so destitute? Does he not work?
Assasda Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 So, has he told you the truth about his situation, or did he tell you some kinda lie? Also, why were you bathing in a pool full of tears, that evening? Seems odd Because you said, that you were LITTERALLY in Tears
windows Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I think we need to hear more backstory on how you actually got together with this guy. And also - why is he so broke? There's always a reason - some within our control (which if it is the case, seriously dump him, he needs to shape up before even thinking about having a relationship) and some outside of our control (which if it is the case, may take some working through).
heartshaped Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Maybe this is just a temporary situation for him. The thing that stood out to me most, I'm sorry, is when you said you had no way home. What is your financial situation, if you don't mind me asking, that you had no way home? Doesn't sound like you have your finances together either.
WhatIsLove2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Maybe this is just a temporary situation for him. The thing that stood out to me most, I'm sorry, is when you said you had no way home. What is your financial situation, if you don't mind me asking, that you had no way home? Doesn't sound like you have your finances together either. i was thinking the exact same thing!! Like you don't have a car? Money for the bus or taxi? Mind reader, heartshaped
Author ashleysv Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Maybe this is just a temporary situation for him. The thing that stood out to me most, I'm sorry, is when you said you had no way home. What is your financial situation, if you don't mind me asking, that you had no way home? Doesn't sound like you have your finances together either. Well put. I do not have my car with me as I am away at school. I took the bus to get to him (20 mins away) and I had a ticket to return, but it was scheduled for the next morning and the fine print says you cannot change the date/time on the ticket. I was worried about spending my own money because I had already dumped a **** ton of money out of my pocket when we went to the baseball game because he couldn't pay for anything. Anyways, ended up figuring a way home as the bus station at 1 am was closed and left no room for me to purchase an additional ticket (that was my original plan).
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