mslel Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Haha, I know the title is bizarre but didn't know how to summarise my problem.... I want to know if men will have a problem with me being on dating sites as an unavailable woman, and, if so, which Australian sites are appropriate for my situation. When I say unavailable I mean that I don't want to rush into a relationship or shag the first guy I meet. Seems to be the culture these days... I'm 29 but I'm not desperate. I want to chat to people and just get to know them in more of a friendship manner - and if it's right it's right. I seem to remember RSVP having a "looking for friendship" option. But was just wondering how this would be perceived and whether anyone else is dating in this manner? Thanks a bunch x
Jason808 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 (edited) I personally use dating apps to find someone and not to shag someone. It's not only guys that do this but alot of girls too. If you just want to chat with people and go on dating apps that is fine, I mean you get "matched" on your appearance so you can never know how someone is before that, if they don't like you or you don't like them then you can just delete them. I wish there were more people like you that would use the apps/websites like this. PS: edited because i read it wrong Edited September 29, 2014 by Jason808 1
d0nnivain Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I understand what you want but you need to rephrase how you express that desire. In your ad / profile you need to say that you are looking to take your time developing a healthy long term relationship. Yes you will get responses from people who are only looking to have sex but they aren't too hard to weed out. You have to take your time & be patient to get what you want. 1
Tayken Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 @OP....Ashley Madison is international innit? There is also good looking people, which I believe is also international.
jay1983 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Oh you won't be the only one. Most of the women on there are just there for attention and have no interest in actually meeting anybody.
Author mslel Posted September 30, 2014 Author Posted September 30, 2014 Thanks so much for all the helpful replies. It's good to know that not everyone will have those short term expectations and I'm feeling more confident to give it a try. I think the suggestion of stating this upfront is great, the only people that should be alienated by a woman who wants to take it slow are those who are shallow or just looking for hookups! I can see that now. Thanks again all x
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