Wisecrack Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I'm at the young age of the early twenties as such, social media is the epitome of life. Everyone basically texts, snap chats and the likes. I do too but I've been doing things differently with this new girl and would like some insight from you guys thanks In the past I've had good and bad results from just texting but with the new girl, I'm calling her more than I am texting. This is even if it is just to have a conversation. Now the first question. Is it normal to have that awkward moments when you're both 'butting' into each other? I'll admit my calling skills are not as good especially when talking to girls I'm interested in. Secondly, do girls prefer the text or the calls? I feel whenever I call, we might have that initial awkward hello start before the conversation smooths out and I hear her giggling and laughing along as opposed to a simple 'haha' reply. Furthermore it feels like she wants to keep the conversation going when I cut it short (even though she told me she's busy at first). When we hang up, I'm left with that giddy feeling even if I feel slightly awkward. Do girls feel that way too? I guess it all comes down to the title of my thread, even for the younger generation, do girls prefer a call or continual texting? Furthermore I feel it lets me cut a text conversation short without having to ignore a text or say 'sorry for replying so late' later on!
Tayken Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Hiding behind texts doesn't do anyone any good. Eventually you are going to have to talk face to face if things graduate, as opposed to using text to communicate. The sooner you talk to someone, the better as you are able to put a voice to the face, and hear them organically. Texts also have a way of misconstruing thoughts at times, due to how the other person might read it. So...talk over text is preferred.
quidproquo89 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I like texting and seeing people in real life - never been fond of talking on the phone 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I like texting and seeing people in real life - never been fond of talking on the phone Same here........grr darn character count. 2
preraph Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Any form of written communication can be misinterpreted. With in person or phone calls, you have the benefit of being able to hear the tone. Example, say you're asking out someone you barely know. You do it by text and she says, "Can't. Busy." Well, you have no idea if that's for real or an excuse. You do it by phone, and she may say, "Oh, let me think. Hmmm, Saturday -- Oh, I told my friend I'd go with her that night. Sorry!" and you can tell by the warmth of her voice if she's genuine or sounds like she's making excuses, plus you get a reason, etc., plus you're free to follow-up with a question or ask her for another night if you think she's still being friendly. You can't get to know the real person from texting alone or even email. Phoning is better than either when you're trying to really get an idea of who someone is, and then nothing is as good as in person for that. And yes, you will sometimes talk over each other on the phone because you can't see who's about to speak. Just a quick "sorry - go ahead" will rectify that.
me85 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 As a woman, I prefer a guy I'm seeing to call me more than text me. I'm also 29 so my views on how to communicate are a bit traditional. Though I do love to text more than talk on the phone. This day and age it's all about messaging everyone and anyone. It's easier and faster most of the time. BUT I think when a guy is freshly talking to a girl the appropriate way to communicate (at least in the beginning) is to call vs. text/email/fb/snapchat/twitter/instagram...all that nonsense. LOL
Assasda Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Yes calling is better. Because women get to hear your voice, and Women love that. Also, you should hang up, and leave them wanting more, dont be afraid of it
mammasita Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I hate talking on the phone. Text over talk any day and I'm 38. 2
jjtr Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 I'm 27. I usually prefer calling, but the girl I'm seeing now seems to prefer texting. That's just how it started from the beginning and that's what I've kept up with. I told her she can call, but I guess she just likes texting that much more.
Supernatural Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 (edited) Calling is much better than text. There is better communication and you can gauge how a person is much better. It's more real. With text, we will sit there and analyze simple things can easily get blown out of proportion and arguments start, it's really a terrible way to get to know someone or maintain anything. People hide behind text and that's where games start. I kind of never want to text romantic interests again. Even if they text, I won't answer those texts, then I will just call. A phone call shows you are priority. A text.. You can respond whenever you want, and people read way too much in to it. Text is meant for really small messages like: "Had fun tonight" "see you soon" "The address is 78 Cordova Street, buzz 1323" Not.. A huge message outlining our relationship or what I desire in life. Everyone texts. So therefore you should call. Because not many do, and that would say a lot about you. Edited September 30, 2014 by Supernatural
tpham18nm Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 (edited) I'm 23. Texting and calling really depends on the situation and time of day. I think that women are less likely to answer the phone then reply to a text. Perhaps talking on the phone is more like "we're friends status" ;whereas, texting is like "I'm getting to know you." These days I think calling is considered old school and younger women find it strange to call. I don't play the social media game, Facebook, twitter, IG, Snapchat is just not my thing. And texting is too simple. I like conversions, not a list of acronyms to decipher. "Omg, wtf r u talking bout? That's cray cray!", just does not work for me. One time someone crazy analyzed the heck out if my text. She said, " why are you mad? You put a period at the end of your sentence??? You never do that, what is it now?! ". I think I sent her a message that said " Yeah. I got home." After that I put periods after everything. "Yes." "Okay.", haha texting is WAY complicated. Edited September 30, 2014 by Gotpepsi
Gloria25 Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 To me it depends on what you are communicating and at what stage in the RL you are in... I prefer texting cuz I'm busy, it's convenient, and unlike most chicks - I don't do the all chatty-chatty thing. There was a time one of my gfs called me like twice in a day and I was like 'I just talked to her earlier today, what more am I gonna talk about?' Now, if it is an important convo, yeah, I prefer in person. If he's setting up a date when we are first dating, I'd prefer calling.
Tayken Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 Same here........grr darn character count. Must be a generation thing? The social media group
FitChick Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 If everyone your age texts, you will distinguish yourself from the pack by calling. It helps to mention you love the sound of her voice.
Versacehottie Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 I'm at the young age of the early twenties as such, social media is the epitome of life. Everyone basically texts, snap chats and the likes. I do too but I've been doing things differently with this new girl and would like some insight from you guys thanks In the past I've had good and bad results from just texting but with the new girl, I'm calling her more than I am texting. This is even if it is just to have a conversation. Now the first question. Is it normal to have that awkward moments when you're both 'butting' into each other? I'll admit my calling skills are not as good especially when talking to girls I'm interested in. Secondly, do girls prefer the text or the calls? I feel whenever I call, we might have that initial awkward hello start before the conversation smooths out and I hear her giggling and laughing along as opposed to a simple 'haha' reply. Furthermore it feels like she wants to keep the conversation going when I cut it short (even though she told me she's busy at first). When we hang up, I'm left with that giddy feeling even if I feel slightly awkward. Do girls feel that way too? I guess it all comes down to the title of my thread, even for the younger generation, do girls prefer a call or continual texting? Furthermore I feel it lets me cut a text conversation short without having to ignore a text or say 'sorry for replying so late' later on! Here's the thing, the variety is intriguing. I like that better than predictable. The consistency of showing that I am on your mind and that you are spontaneous with way you reach out is very attractive. To me, much better than all texts or all calls. And yes, giddy feelings too when I like the guy. I think you are handling it perfectly.
Snakechammah Posted September 30, 2014 Posted September 30, 2014 It's either face-to-face or texting for me, absolutely no phonecalls. I hate the sound of my own voice!!
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