xoKimbraxo Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Hi, i'm new. I wanted to get some insight on something that has been bothering me. This guy I know (Dave) is a fun guy, and I like him, but he confuses me so I kept a distance. 1. Him and this girl have a weird relationship. He seems to keep it under wraps. He doesn't speak of their relationship to me. He always denies that he's with her, but it's so obvious. Even on Facebook. He's smitten by her and you can tell, but when he hangs around me, he tries to go out with me, flirts and acts possessive. It's definitely a game playing thing. Sometimes he'll act like he's my boyfriend, and he can't stand to hear about other men. He does little games to try and get me over to his house, and it doesn't work. I told him I am not into guys that play with women and I was upfront with him in that sense. I said "I am into guys that will have a relationship" He doesn't say anything, but why does he even try with me, when I already said I am not into guys like him? I reject him a lot too. I call out the fact that he has a girlfriend, and he always denies it and says they are "just friends" when it's like uh huh, yeah, sure! Why is he playing games? And since I figured him out, why does he keep thinking he's going to get somewhere with me when I stated that nothing is ever going to happen between us?!
Mister Zen Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Because you clearly like the attention and you clearly like him on some level. You know how I know this? Because people don't associate with people they don't like. And you are still associating with him. Nice try. 1
Assasda Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 ^ Oh sooooo right. Preach on Master Zen. To be fair the poster sounds super young. I'm gonna guess no more than 17
Author xoKimbraxo Posted September 29, 2014 Author Posted September 29, 2014 I'm 21 yrs old. You guys are rude! I already stated in my post that I do like him, I am not denying that, I know what he's about though, and for my sake I am keeping the distance because I know it will never work. I got it. I didn't ask weather or not if I liked him, or if I am confused about that, so I don't get the point of you both saying "You like him and like the attention" OK? Well that's irrelevant, because I am asking about HIM! Not me!
Jason808 Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 Well what do you want, do you want him to break up with his "girlfriend" to start dating you? Because you know people like that are not loyal, he doesn't sound loyal and what if he gets bored with you? Will he do the same thing to you as he did with that other girl? Is that something you can live with? Think about it, he sounds like a jerk to me.
Toodaloo Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 If you have doubts run. Sounds like you have doubts so RUN. De-friend on facebook, delete his number and go find someone who isn't going to make you feel this way. My biggest mistake was not running when I had doubts. Its always ended up with me being hurt. So run.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 This isn't complicated. He knows you like him. So he keeps trying to bait you hoping you'll cave and hook up with him. He's playing you and his "girlfriend". It's an ego thing for him, that's all.
Zahara Posted September 29, 2014 Posted September 29, 2014 (edited) This sounds like a very similar story from another poster. He's playing games. You acknowledge it. You identify it. Does it matter why he does it? If it does, he probably does it because you enable the game for him and he knows he may possibly get his way with you because you are showing him you like the attention (negative) he gives you. I am not sure what advice you need other than if you don't like the negative attention stay away from it. If you choose to enable and engage in games, and games you identify and acknowledge, don't complain or question it. Edited September 29, 2014 by Zahara
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