Need some support

[Mla]

I jus feel like givin up nearly a year on only minuscule improvements

 

 

Breakin my heart here again just cannot get over my ex who moved on straight away from, crushes me

 

I'm not short of date offers and still absolutely anybody I try to meet the comparisons without control take over and they come now where near to tickin all the boxes he did

 

I miss him so much iv had enough of my depression and suffering knowin he has moved on now from the ex before me and me as easy that!

 

Why can't I move on quickly like others? Why am i so pathetic to still be in this dreadful place iv had enough :,(

[serges]

You are not alone. I, too, am going through tough times forgetting my ex gf who dumped me and pursued new relationship. If you have time, take a look at my thread and you will see similar problems we share. It has been for 9 months and I must tell you it was hard... However, face it. Don't escape from it. Go through the pain and loss yourself and cry if u need to. Find someone to talk to if you need. Do whatever it takes to make u feel better. There is a reason why you two broke up. you may not notice now but sooner or later you will. I have finally realised that we both are really not compatible. What she wants is not what i want. What i perceive as wrong she views it otherwise. Now, she is smoking, drinking and clubbing. Having the hell of her time, thinking that she should do this when she is still young. I am different. i despise such activities and prefer a more tranquil life. Focus on the difference and the downside of the relationship. At the same time, dont forget the good times you had with him. Just keep it mind that the person you once loved so much before is long gone.

 

Lastly, you are not alone. Have faith.

[Strength in Healing]

Do you check his facebook (or any social media)? Do you find details out about him through any means (friends, etc)?

 

If so, that's what is delaying your healing.

 

What you need to do is severe ALL ties, and accept you aren't broken, and you're going to heal. Not only will you heal, but you will heal stronger and smarter.

 

Remember, it's his loss, not yours -- because YOU are the one with the heart. Look how much you care, and look how much he doesn't. That isn't a reflection of your shortcomings;

 

it's a reflection of his.

[Mla]

Thankyou for your kind words and replies

 

I don't he is blocked everywhere as I can't handle seein or hearing anythin which makes me feel annormal for bein in this place so long only a few times throughout this whole year did i re read old texts and photos on an old phone and checked his fb just once

 

He emailed me in march and was blocked so dunno how it came through but it wasn't particularly nice saying he didn't like wa he heard and guy he seen in my car was ugly and asked to join gym but I felt it was only cause he argued with his gf

 

She surprisingly enough messaged on fb off a friends acc as she is blocked and out of the blue said this is his gf how any times has he contacted and have u met up? I gave no info was really nice even tho I begrudged it to act not bothered and said he will get nowhere contactin me as previously proven and hope u sort it out, even put a kiss on the end

 

Thing is focusing on the bad doesn't reinforce anger to help move on jus simply hurts all the more iv jus start therapy and I'm hopin for a miracle, my head knows we could never work due to lies anger and trust contacting ex and gettin on datin sites behind back everytime we rowed but my heart jus will not let go

 

I feel he was first love a connection in so any ways I never felt before ticked all the boxes and jus feel il be settling meetin anyone else I hate I miss him south and still care and have feelings after all this time knowin he moved on as quick as he did I always hope he still cares n il keep a special place in his heart no matter what