alleykat28 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 It's been a week today that I've had NC with my best friend. He was my rock the one I could always count on. I feel as if my heart is breaking. I'm fine when I'm at work but when I'm home it gets worse.
evanescentworld Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 What have you been doing so far every day? Keep doing it. Evenings are always worse, particularly in circumstances where you find yourself alone in the evenings, and no-one to talk to. My Great-Aunt recently lost her husband. They had been married 61 years. How she manages to cope on her own, in the evenings after having been with this man all her adult life, is beyond my understanding. Yet, she says, rather than wonder how she's going to cope, she takes each day, one at a time. Gets through it, and passes into the next day. She Meditates. And finds peace in doing so.... I posted a thread about Meditating. You may like to examine the link and consider trying it for yourself. Much heartfelt Metta to you.
me85 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 It is very difficult not speaking to your once best friend. I'm sorry. I've been there. A few times. You just have to keep going. You have to realize that by losing something you are gaining something. There's no easy way through it. You have to let yourself be sad when you're sad and happy when you're happy. Work is the best thing for depression. Dive into something good and lose yourself in it. Is there anything you've been wanting to do but haven't yet? Now's the times to do it. Best of luck to you. "To have a broken heart is a good thing. It means we have tried for something."
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 It's been a week today that I've had NC with my best friend. He was my rock the one I could always count on. I feel as if my heart is breaking. I'm fine when I'm at work but when I'm home it gets worse. I think with everyone, the difficulty of accepting they were not your best friend. As I never was one to leave without a proper goodbye. Even when they have accused me of wrong in front of peeps and family. once you accept the fact you need to let go, and attempt to put it all in the past, you can rebuild by finding what makes you happy, in new interests or old. once you start never look back, always look to the future. Just because you lost out, does not mean you will always be without. somewhere someone that sees you for what you are, will accept you as you deserve.
d0nnivain Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 You heel over time. More than one week. You do grieve for the loss of the relationship. You do things to soothe your pain. Ice cream helps me. You surround yourself with supportive people.
True Gent Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 You have to accept that what once was is gone. That takes a lot more than a week. You eventually will begin to understand that the ending of this relationship paves the way for the beginning of a better one. Your best medicine is keeping your mind busy. Do everything and anything you enjoy as an individual. Spend more time on other relationships with family/friends which you may of neglected. I lost the best friend I ever had 11 months ago, I'm still here and I'm ok. It's an up and down process, but as more time passes it gets easier and you become stronger. Life isn't over just yet.
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