On and off with the ex

[brotherbilos]

Hey,

 

I will make this brief: My ex from 5 years ago (first love) and I have been on and off this year. This is our 4th time, we don't end because we fight but b/c the way I handled the breakup 5 years ago I said some very rude things to her and her family. She says shes past this but she believes her family will be extremely upset with me and as a result is why we have ended each time. She doesn't want to tell them, and I wont force her but I really do love her. I have matured and have gotten my emotions in control and I know i am not that same adolescent anymore. Every time she ends it I feel like absolute cr*p and can't function. I have been in relationships since and have handled every breakup well and move on, but for some reason with this girl I just collapse. She says I make her happy, and like I said we haven't had any arguments or disagreements, but the family issue seems to be the deal breaker.

 

Is there any advice on how to handle this situation?

[Arieswoman]

I'm sorry brother bilos,

But this is going nowhere because the commitment isn't there.

 

It doesn't matter if the whole world was against you both, if you really wanted to be together you would make it happen.

 

One or both of you is hooked on drama and it isn't going to end well.

 

Please cut your losses now and move on to a better situation.

 

Good luck.

[zen2475]

It's not her family that has the problem with how the break up occurred; it's her. She makes the decision to repeatedly break up with you, not them.

 

 

The past is in the past. She clearly has not come to terms that in some breakups, if not relationships, things are said in the heat of emotion that are quite regrettable. Chit happens, but she has to learn to let go, forgive and forget.

 

 

I think you need to consider if you want to be with someone who doesn't seem capable of managing her emotions and who will constantly punish you for something that is done and over.