zamish3 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 (edited) Have been broken up since September 16th My ex liked me a lot more than I liked her during the relationship (or so she thought).The truth is I just wasn’t really open about my true feelings (a part of me was kinda scared as I haven’t had much experience dealing with these emotions)..until after the breakup After/during the break up she says I hurt her repeatedly during the relationship (I guess by repeatedly not reciprocating the love/affection) and so she essentially shut me off in her head despite the fact that she wants me.. (her words). Also ” I just don’t think it makes any sense to be in a relationship with you right now.. I may change my mind later. It may be too late then but I’ll take that risk" The past week and a half she’s started conversations with me like 80% of the days telling me random stuff about her life or her family or just to talk.. kinda like we did during the relationship, albeit shorter. I found this behaviour highly confusing.. I mean..she broke up with me just last week so wtf ? So I ask her why do you still want to contact me.. and she gave me perhaps the most confusing response you could imagine ” Because I like you as a person Perhaps the parable about liking something from a far manifested itself in reality The one about admiring something from afar and being enamoured with it Intrigued and taken by its beauty But upon nearing that thing its beauty changed into something vague.. unrecognisable Perhaps I’m taking a step back to recapture the beauty that once held me” Confused as hell I respond “Okay I get it.. you don’t like me (romantically) anymore” And she’s like ” I never said that” ..Then today she starts a whatsapp conversation with me. We end up talking for 1.5 hours (she was responding extremely quickly) until she just suddenly stops responding but she stays online for a few more hours.. wtf. Is she confused.. or what ? Honestly, I'm the type of guy who can handle the majority of breakup scenarios such as "Falling out of love" "other guy" or whatever. I can handle "being friends" with an ex but this behaviour is downright confusing. I actually do want her back.. but if she doesn't want to come back I can handle it. Any thoughts/advice ? How should I approach this situation ? Edited September 28, 2014 by zamish3
evanescentworld Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Block, delete, do not respond. It really is that simple. Read, Mark and Inwardly Digest. Then, implement to the fullest extent. NO!! Stop!! No ifs, buts, maybes, 'what if', 'yes but I...' It's over. She ended it. Tell her you are abiding by her decision, even if she obviously isn't. 2
Arieswoman Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 zamish3, I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but this ;- Also ” I just don’t think it makes any sense to be in a relationship with you right now.. I may change my mind later. It may be too late then but I’ll take that risk" tells me that she's trying to keep you as a back-up plan in case she doesn't get anything that suits her better. Do you want to be her back-up plan? No, I didn't think so. Block/delete/NC/move on. Stop responding and let her really know what it's like living without you. She chose to break-up, so give her what she wants. Stay strong. Good luck.
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