CharlotteC Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 So I was last on here a year ago and things have changed a lot. I have since split up with the boy I was with for 9 months and I am now with an amazing boy called Nathan who means everything to me. The story is this. I moved to my nans house from my mums in the middle of August to go college here, before I moved I was seeing a boy called James well things didn't work out between us but while we were together I got to know his uncle who is like an uncle to me now. I was talking to him one day and Nathan was there (he's also friends with James), we talked for a while and told each other how we felt and that led to us being together now. We are perfectly happy except for the normal arguments when we're missing each other. Now for the problem. Me and my mum have never had a normal relationship so when we fell out a few weeks ago it wasn't surprising, but this time it was different as she refused to talk to me. I got home from college the next day to find out she had told my nan (who is caught up in all the old ways e.g. no sex before marriage and asking the parents to date the girl) that I was going to see him while they were on holiday. Anyway my nan and granddad went mad and told me I was never allowed to see him because he was going to kill me. They don't want to listen when I say he's friends with my ex. I don't know what to do any more because I need to go and see him but they don't want me to go. I'll be staying at his mums house with him if I do go and it's only 3 hours away. Also this is not the first time they've done this, it's like they don't want me to be happy. What can I do? I'm desperate.
justwhoiam Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Hi Charlotte, 1. First of all, how old are you? 2. Of all the places you could go to, you chose a college next to your grandparents?? Besides, knowing they're so strict. 3. Why should you go to see this guy? Can't he visit you? 4. Are you focusing on college?
Author CharlotteC Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 I'm almost 18 and I moved here because my mum kicked me out. He cannot come here because the hotels are way too expensive and yes I am focusing on it.
justwhoiam Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 I'm almost 18 You're a minor. I moved here because my mum kicked me out. Why did she kick you out? He cannot come here because the hotels are way too expensive So that's enough of a reason for you to go there? Sorry, Charlotte, but I guess this says enough about how much he's willing to do for you, how far he's willing to go. Surely not out of his way...... There are a number of options for him, but it looks like him having no money means no effort from him whatsoever. And it doesn't sound well to me. I'm sorry but I side with your granny. He must do his homework, so to speak. 1. He can couchsurf (free accomodation) 2. He can sleep in a hostel 3. He can find a cheap B&B or find some airbnb place 4. He can find a college student there who can host him for a few days 5. You name it......... Sure, it's easier to stay at home, not do anything and wait for you to visit him. Also, if he were a decent guy, he wouldn't want you to get in trouble with your family because of him. Let him get up his a-- and do something.
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